[katielee102]

Hi everyone! I have not been here in a while and I missed you all! This post is not actually for me its for advice on what to do about a co-worker of mine. He is a very depressed indivdual at this time. Over all i think he is a great guy however he has some major issues, such as getting really upset when people talk about their significant others because he thinks he will never find someone and has the worst luck. In his life overall nothing makes him happy (except work which is sad) and he feels like things ALWAYS go wrong for him. Things do happen to him but they happen to everyone. The thing is i know how he feels i have depression and anxiety though not as bad as him right now. He opend up to me last night and a bit today. I am worried about him now though, he is talking about how life is not worth it, he shoudl jump off a bridge, etc. He admitted hes not always this bad but things are getting to him plus he says he does not know if he can make it through the holidays. I told him to call his dr but his doc is away. he doesnt really want to get me involved so i dont know what i should do or say to him. He is functioning, he is working today, etc he always works hard. but i just want to know what to say to help him.

thank you!

[madisgram]

hi katie,
it sounds like you've done all you can do..you've been supportive, listened, and given your friend some good suggestions. i know it's hard to not want to help any further but he's given you the heads up on that. maybe he just needed to vent..or is feeling down on himself with the holidays approaching. does he have family in the area he can go see?
sometimes i have to sit on my hands(!) because i want to help someone soooo bad but i've learned, for me that is, that i have to "let go" with love. if he feels out of control there's always the emergency room if he doesn't have any other place to go over the holidays and he hits rock bottom. (not that i recommend that but ?) he would be more helpful to himself tho to talk with his T, but since he doesn't want to, what's to do???
holidays are stressful to most people and at least he's looking at that and telling you his thoughts...but if he doesn't want to get help he won't feel any better.
i'm sorry that he's hurting and i hope i don't sound stern..but it's his recovery and there's little more you can do. perhaps someone else has a better answer but hope this helps you.