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Apr 06, 2009 at 11:21 PM
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I never learned how to have fun.
I never learned how to socialize. never learned how to express feelings. Wasn't even able to leave my house after I got home from school through out my life up till college. Was stuck at home. I learned how to go so numb that I never realized what I was missing. I'm thawed out now and don't know what to do. By now everyones so much better at everything than me - it's like I'm a 2 year old in so many ways and I don't know how to deal x.x __________________  Yesterday I was so clever, so I want to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself. |
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Apr 07, 2009 at 09:42 AM
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Hon I think the classic problem especially with depressed people is lack of socialization skills. Actually many "normal" people lack these. Be happy that you have thawed out and now realize what you are missing. The major problem with thawing out is that it heightens the loneliness which can intensify depression. Keep it up though, confronting your problems, is the only way to finally beat depression.
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Apr 07, 2009 at 10:59 AM
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Hi T...
Oh, to unthaw, and be so tender. It is a huge part of healing and you are still young. Keep doing the work of your journey. Depression sucks. You know that feeling. Now, you can experience other feelings. Being what others expect - just staying home after school, etc - and numbing out to the real you - took up a lot of your time. You see it now and you will continue to explore, just like I do to get me active again after a step or two into depression. Know I care about you, and there is support here for you at PC
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Apr 07, 2009 at 11:24 AM
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TS, I had to catch up too as an adult. It's okay! You are a fast learner and you will do well! I had a lot of stuff to learn. Actually, learning it as an adult has an advantage - you will learn it much better than others who learned it as little kids!
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Apr 07, 2009 at 01:04 PM
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Apr 08, 2009 at 03:31 AM
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I'm very much like you -- I have barely any socialization skills at all, so it's amazing to me that I manage to function in the world sometimes. But thawing out is good, it's a step in the right direction, and I'm sure as you continue to thaw, you'll be able to learn more ways to be sociable and have fun.
Lots of hugs.
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Apr 08, 2009 at 10:31 AM
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I realized the same thing about myself recently. Throughout high school and college I never had any friends and always kept to myself. But, once you understand what the problem is you can take steps to resolve it. Put the past behind you and move on to a new and better future! Put yourself in social situations that were uncomfortable before. You'll make mistakes, but you'll learn from them and soon you will catch up to everyone else.
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Apr 08, 2009 at 02:27 PM
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I hear ya....!!
 I have become more reclusive lately since losing my job. I get out for errands and stuff, and I do attempt to make plans with the two friends I have, but I don't trust easily, and lately it just feels safer to stay in my own little hollow!!  I do like being around people...genuine people I should say, but I'm just so scared!! I'm am glad to be on the forum though!! And I am glad that you are here as well...even though you are having these difficult experiences  .I am here for you!! 
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Apr 08, 2009 at 04:14 PM
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Thanks everyone, I guess I just got really frustrate with it. Thanks for all the support it means alot... guess I'm just stuck on a delayed path of learning but hey it's still a path right
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