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Apr 25, 2013, 07:12 PM
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Well, I am looking at a big blow up with my wife! I locked up my narcotics so I am the only one who can get to them. I have no insurance so my med are so very expensive. In turn I have cut back on my pain meds so to stretch them out. Last month I got them filled and I was supposed to take them 3 times a day but I was only taking them at bedtime. When It came time for the refill I was out! My 1 month supply should have lasted 3 months but they didn't. I confronted my wife about it and at first she denied it but when I pointed out I was only taking them once a day she said that her shoulder hurt so she might have taken a few. Now, she twisted her knee at work and they didn't give her anything for pain and I know if I don't put mine under lock and key that they too will vanish. I do have a high pain tolerance but this is crazy!! I know when she looks in my med box and sees them gone that she's gonna come unglued at the reasoning for my locking them away. At least she is covered under worker's comp. and if they feel she needs pain meds they will give them to her. She has no tolerance for pain! I had knee surgery and missed 2 days of work, she had the same surgery a yr. later and milked it for over 4 months! I feel guilty for doing it but am I in the wrong???
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Apr 25, 2013, 08:40 PM
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You would actually be doing something illegal by allowing someone else to take your pain meds, plus you will get into trouble with maybe not being given more if you are thought to be using too many. I think you are doing the right thing. If she's hurting that much, then she needs to go to a doctor and talk about it.
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Apr 26, 2013, 07:51 AM
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Apr 26, 2013, 10:14 AM
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I have this same issue with my husband. He broke my lock to get them and took 3 bottles out. Of course I found out the day I really really needed them. Now I carry them in my purse from room to room with me. No you are doing the right thing! they are YOUR meds!
 unfortunately for me my husband is addicted to them so keeping them with me is for his own good as well as mine.Quote:
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Apr 26, 2013, 11:10 AM
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I think you are doing the very right thing. Hang in there.
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Apr 26, 2013, 07:43 PM
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While this is true - it's not really easy to get decent pain medication - I know I have been thing for about 5 years - it still hurts like he!! - and still no one will touch it - therefore I am forced to grab what I can when I can, from whomever I can - because I for sure am not going to put up with the pain - then a few that actually talked to me at all about it seemed to have the attitude I has doing something wrong by wanting the pain gone, so that was the end of that...So I don't really try anymore, if it falls in my lap, and it's not going to be any more of a hassle then the way I am handling it now... Yes you have to watch out for yourself too - I'm just saying to say "if it hurts that much, go see a doctor" is a very simplistic thing to say - and to acquire anything that really works is not so easy that way..... |
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Apr 29, 2013, 08:10 AM
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I think there is a lot of "oh, that hurts, I'll take something for it and if it is not enough, I'll take more" and not enough, "what" hurts and what med can help? I have arthritis in my shoulders and Advil usually doesn't touch it; do I take more Advil? No, if what is prescribed to you, based on your pain, does not work, you have to try a different med and/or realize that whatever you've got, it's not well understood and just taking highly addictive/expensive medicine that does more harm than good to your body is not the answer. Oxycontin prescribed to me does not work for my arthritis either so I hurt a lot when I'm trying to sleep. I'm not going to endanger my brain and threaten myself because of my other conditions (asthma, depressing my breathing is not a good idea), needlessly. Sure I can keep taking pills until I pass out and am not aware of the pain but living and functioning always suffers as a result. If I caught someone else I love taking my medicine I think I would lock it away and bring home a very large bottle of scotch and leave that out for discussion when someone decides to express anger at me for their own not taking care of themselves well. If you are going to be so stupid as to self-medicate without discussing your condition with a doctor (another doctor if you are a doctor yourself) and running tests/scans to see what is going on, etc., trying what supervised and tested meds are out there and suggested by said doctor for your condition, then just get drunk or otherwise drugged and be done with it but leave my health alone. Chronic pain is. . .painful, frustrating, depressing but self medicating or using medication that does not work "properly" is not the answer.
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Apr 29, 2013, 08:26 AM
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If she's taking two narcotics every day for a month straight and sneaking them from you, then denying it, I see it as more of a desire to take the meds and not to make pain go away. She may be in pain but she's using that to justify taking medication away from you and that is not fair.
I understand not getting meds that you feel like you need and being in a lot of pain, however I don't understand taking them from my husband without at least asking him first, unless I had an addiction to them and was using them for any other purpose apart from pain. I would talk to her, see if she has an addiction. She might not admit it at first but if she gets really defensive and angry with you for asking, she most likely does have an addiction.
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Apr 29, 2013, 03:34 PM
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I don't know - I would watch that too...And as pointed out, it may not be "wise" to self-medicate - BUT I see no excuse to just put up with pain either - therefore, if no one wants to touch it - or it's such a hassle even if they do - then you are not giving people much of a choose..
That was my point, I actually use way less than a script would be anyway - but I have tried the so called "right way" for years, no bites - so put up with it? - No way! And it's not worth a lot of hassle over 20 pills per month at the most, and usually more like 10. |
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May 02, 2013, 02:34 PM
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Shame on her! She knows better than this.
 You definitely did the right thing by locking them up. And if SHE is in SUCH PAIN, then she needs to see a doctor. But if she's taking them for every little ache and pain she has, she might have a "problem." You might want to talk to her about it. I wish you the best. Take care and God bless. Hugs, Lee
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