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Arrow Jan 18, 2022 at 01:52 PM
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How do others in this forum who have disabilities manage the feeling of being excluded by society and other people? I think it is only a realization that those with disabilities can comprehend. Why does society torment us?

Today in my college class a guy sort of made fun of my voice and laughed. I have a naturally quiet/ raspy voice from a tracheotomy operation I underwent as young child. I have always known I am different from other people, and I've tried not to make myself fully conscious of it, except in the instance when someone points it out like today.

I have held these feelings since I was in elementary school. I am different from other people. Alienation follows me everywhere I go. This isn't meant to be a
descent into a swamp of self-pity, but to ask if there is a way to improve one's situation.

I am attempting everything I can to integrate into society so that they perceive me as an everyday, successful person, I take care of my appearance by staying fit and wearing nice clothes. I have usual hobbies, hiking, investing, writing, shopping, and photography. I am currently in college trying to obtain a degree so that I can secure a well-paying, professional job, at least, I hope. I am doing everything society requests of me, yet it isn't enough, they still spew judgement at me. All I desire is to be accepted by other people. Every goal of mine, every aspiration and lifestyle change has been fueled by that one need.

The fact that I will NEVER be truly able to be accepted by these normal, privileged people deeply depresses me. I wish there was a way I could be accepted by society, but I fear my efforts will be in vain because they will always noticeably perceive me as strange.

Society and other people do not understand me, and I desperately want to change their perception of me. I am so strange and unusual compared to other people that I find myself contemplating if there is even a way to accomplish this.

Please let me know if there is a way to be accepted by civilization. Please share if you can relate to my turmoil. I'd like to know your story.
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Default Jan 18, 2022 at 02:59 PM
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I hope it’s okay to reply to your post, I don’t have disabilities, although in how I think and process I do feel different to the mainstream.

I have friends who have disabilities, as varied as the people themselves. I don’t see their differences as an issue at all, apart from when physically they have suffered because of it. Also often how their life has been has often contributed to who they are, in a positive way, life hasn’t always been easy for them and it seems to me that they’ve developed other strengths because of it. I hope that’s okay to write, it’s just my perception.

I think many people will like, admire and love you for who you are - and people who don’t aren’t really worth your mental energy IMO.
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Default Jan 18, 2022 at 04:00 PM
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I’m deaf. I found that mostly it’s insecure people who can’t handle disabilities. Just go on doing the things your doing and don’t pay attention to the negative few who try to trip you up. Covid really messed things up for me because of masks, but I still do things. I bought see though masks and ask the teachers to wear those so I can read lips. They have all been happy too.

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