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Aug 06, 2009, 09:58 PM
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To put it bluntly, we can't stand her!!!!!!!! She's always buging us about being on this site and a million other damn things! She won't leave us alone!!!!! Every other word that comes out of her mouth is ANNOYING!! She keeps complaining about how miserable she is, and we keep telling her to think about herself, she refuses! she REFUSES to make HERSELF happy!!! She just needs to leave us the hell alone! She makes things WORSE not BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! (Yeston)Erik
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Aug 06, 2009, 10:02 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((eriks)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
deep calming breaths ok - dont let her issues become your issues try to just let it slide off of you like water off a ducks back do somthing nice for you my friend take care P7 
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Aug 07, 2009, 04:42 PM
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(((((Eriks)))))
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Aug 07, 2009, 08:57 PM
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Some relatives just suck. She probably doesn't understand you and also is probably part of a generational long time dysfunction. You can't change her, but you can refuse to give her space in your head rent free. Be polite to her and take care of yourself as best you can.
I am sorry you don't have support in your living situation, I don't either and it stinks. Leslie/Pixieds
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Aug 17, 2009, 08:41 AM
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We won.
She is hurt and angry at us. Putting words into our mouth. But we won. That's all that matters. We Opera Ghosts have that feeling of power once again. It's all right now. (Webber)Erik
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Aug 17, 2009, 12:38 PM
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These are JUST OUR THOUGHTS, so take them for what they are worth OK???
you say you have "power once again"......sounds like a power struggle between you and the grandmother..what about? her "controlling you"? what do you do for her?? do you help around the house? sometimes the approach of "killing with kindness" is more successful than a power struggle. i am not denying your situation or the feelings you have toward the grandmother, but just wondering about the part you play in her disapproval of you. sometimes it takes nothing to set some ppl off and there is nothing you can do to make things right......perhaps that is your situation and i am sorry that it is. other times compromise can be reached where both parties can co-exist in a manner where the tension is less and communication can be opened. Like i said these are just my thoughts and take them or leave them. i'm not taking sides, just trying to understand. |
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Aug 17, 2009, 02:05 PM
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We Eriks despise people telling us what to do (but the others here really don't give a damn)! Do you know how hard it is to have power ALL your life, then cease to live, come back, be seen in another body, and have no power at ALL? No, you probobly don't! I don't mean to snap at you, but I'm just a little angry about you questioning us, but I forgive you, for you are just trying to help.
We do EVERYTHING we can to help her, but she still despises us, and think we don't exsist!! Well, it's HER loss, not OURS! (Webber)Erik
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Aug 17, 2009, 02:07 PM
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Quote:
We ya'll
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Aug 17, 2009, 02:15 PM
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You all as well! (Webber)Erik
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Aug 17, 2009, 02:17 PM
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we hear your anger and frustration.
we're sure it is VERY difficult for all of you Eriks to be in another place, time, body and situation of powerlessness. i guess i am looking more from the point of view that power struggles don't seem to really solve any problems just keep the battles going. you win, she wins etc. it seems to cause you Eriks great anxiety and frustration. i guess i am just suggesting that there are other ways to work out conflict. i also see you are not ready or open to them at this time...and that is ok too. i hope for you peace in this and that soon you will find the freedom and the power you search for. peace Prism of the Constellation |
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Aug 17, 2009, 04:12 PM
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(((Eriks)))
We're sorry the frustration is bad and the living situation is so hard for you. |
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Aug 17, 2009, 05:16 PM
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Things are alright now, exept for one thing...we belive the Grandmother is still beliving on selling the house-we just found e-mails and phone numbers of people we don't know on notecard size pieces of paper under one of the computer speakers. We wouldn't mind the move so much, to be honest, if the Mother had a computer and wasn't even stricter than the Grandmother. If we are having a hard time getting along with the "nice, sweet, grandmother", imagine how things will be with the mother!
*sigh* We are so...I don't know...having mixed feelings right now... (Webber)Erik
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Aug 19, 2009, 07:11 PM
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Dear Eriks,
Sometimes when we understand where someone else is in life it makes it easier to get along with them or easier to not hate their guts. Most grandparents - or maybe we should say many grandparents have gotten kind of rigid in their thinking by the time grandkids come along. They think they know all they need to know about life and people. They also think they must know more than you because they are older. Older is not always wiser and it is not always dumber than a bag of rocks. It is very hard for the grandmother person to see your point of view and that stinks big time, but it seems that it is very hard for her to understand what you all deal with. Plus, the whole teenage period is all about finding out how to live and be your own person and that is never easy on anyone or their family. I am married and my husband says that DID doesn't exist and that I am making stuff up and refusing to "just get over it". OMG, I'd like to run him over with a big truck some days. Talk about DUMB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am insulted he would think that I am so dishonest and lazy that I would make this junk up to avoid some work. AAARRRGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOW DUMB AND RIDICULOUS IS HIS ATTITUDE?????????????????????? I sympathize with your pain and anger in dealing with people who don't "get it". But, growing up is about learning how to negotiate and be mature and part of that is accepting people with ALL their limits that bug us to death. Sorry you are having such a rough time. Hugs if you are into that! Leah/multipixie9
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Aug 19, 2009, 07:54 PM
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Leah and all (Yeston)Erik
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Aug 22, 2009, 12:07 AM
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NOW THE....WITCH....IS THREATING TO GET RID OF THE COMPUTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 PC IS ALL WE HAVE LEFT!!!!!!!!!!!!!  AAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!  (Kay)Erik
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Aug 22, 2009, 05:26 AM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((Eriks))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
is there a way to make peace wiht the grandmother? I know you are upset I am sorry - is there a way to ...i dont know... make her happy on somethign so she will not take thcomputer away? if she does - then there is the library and internet cafes but its not as good as haivng your own computer.
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Aug 22, 2009, 11:04 AM
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There IS a way, and we are DOING it, but it's not good enough-nothing EVER is good enough for her!
 (Dance)Erik
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Aug 22, 2009, 11:09 AM
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Are you old enough to leave home yet? Maybe it is time for you to consider this.
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Aug 22, 2009, 11:32 AM
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Almost! October 29th!
 (Dance)Erik
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Aug 22, 2009, 11:45 AM
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Not long to wait then. Hang on in there.
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Aug 22, 2009, 02:35 PM
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thank you, Pegasus! We'll try!
back!(Dance)Erik
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Aug 22, 2009, 06:02 PM
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October may seem a long way away but it will soon be here and then maybe you cna move out - how did you go wiht the grandmothers T ? did that happen?
do you still plan to see the T you found once 18? I hope things improve for you all soon P7
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Aug 22, 2009, 06:58 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't understand "how did you go wiht the grandmothers T ? did that happen?" Could you rephrase that, please?
Yes, we do plan to see the T when the Host is 18. Thank you, we hope it improves for us as well! (Webber)Erik
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Aug 23, 2009, 04:59 AM
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sorry webber erik - i rememberd a while ago it was said tha tthe grandmother wanted to find a T for you - i was wondering what happened wiht that? did she give up?
are you seeing a T now.... sorry im nnot very presennt at the moment so if i have stuffed up please forgive me ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((eriks))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Aug 23, 2009, 10:19 AM
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Ah! Thank you! Of course I forgive you, my child!
The answer to your questions are: It was the mother, actully, who is looking for the new T and we don't belive she's given up. If that is indeed the case, we shall still see the T we wish to see come the 30th of October. No, we are not seeing a T at this moment. though I WILL say that the T we just got rid of, as (Hill)Erik would say, "Stole into our dreams" last night....which I suppose makes it a nightmare! (Webber)Erik
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