[Eriksplus]

We're so used to hiding who we really are when we're out, that we even tend to do it when we are around our only irl friend who completley understands us. Should we stop hiding like we really wish to, but are so used to doing?? We keep saying we're going to stop, but we can't seem to, no matter HOW hard we try...it's so...DIFFUCULT!
Any input would be appriceated! Thank you!
(Webber)Erik

[turquoisesea]

First I would ask yourself a few questions.

Why are you hiding? being the first one.

I also think you should discuss (if at all possible) with other parts and primarily the host to figure out if it's safe not to hide.

It sounds like the friend who completely understands you is "safe?"
If so it might be good to tryout not hiding but just with that friend?

These are questions only you can truly answer, and please remember to stay safe as you answer them. Wishing you the best

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by turquoisesea

First I would ask yourself a few questions.

Why are you hiding? being the first one.

I also think you should discuss (if at all possible) with other parts and primarily the host to figure out if it's safe not to hide.

It sounds like the friend who completely understands you is "safe?"
If so it might be good to tryout not hiding but just with that friend?

These are questions only you can truly answer, and please remember to stay safe as you answer them. Wishing you the best

We are hiding simply to keep The Host out of trouble-most of the people who know about us despise us and want us to dissapear.
Yes, this friend is VERY safe.
Thank you for your reply.
(Kay)Erik

[kris9999]

You should NEVER hide who you are! You all are SO wonderful and if people would take the time to get to know you, they will all love you! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{all}}}}}}}}}}}}} You're all too wonderful to hide who you are!

[dreamland]

We like every part of you we have met so far. . .don't be too hard on yourself. we care
~dream

[Hunny]

Eriks,

Not sure how to respond...but we read your post and are pretty sure things will work out for you. Keep posting when you feel safe to do so.

H.

[DLHsSystm]

Not sure what to say Eriksplus. That is a hard question for us. We tend to be very careful about revealing much at all to anyone except our T.
Just our 2 cents...
D's system

In our system, most everyone is hidden except for with T and H. Insiders are out
when triggered out or now that we have co-conciousness, when T needs to clarify things with someone inside or for activities such as writing, painting, drawing--but even then they are very secretive. none wish to reveal themselves each time they are out.
That's just how we work.......

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by Hunny

Eriks,

Not sure how to respond...but we read your post and are pretty sure things will work out for you. Keep posting when you feel safe to do so.

H.

We feel safe here....it's irl we don't...
(Webber)Erik

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by white_iris

In our system, most everyone is hidden except for with T and H. Insiders are out
when triggered out or now that we have co-conciousness, when T needs to clarify things with someone inside or for activities such as writing, painting, drawing--but even then they are very secretive. none wish to reveal themselves each time they are out.
That's just how we work.......

"when T needs to clarify things with someone inside or for activities such as writing, painting, drawing--but even then they are very secretive." That's EXACTLY what I'm talking about!! Even when we're out & KNOW we're safe, we're secretive!
(Webber)Erik

[iamtwilight]

aww, i don't think you should be secretive when you're safe and with people who you think would understand, like here. i hope you didn't mean hiding here! how would we find you then?

as for being out and about in the real life, it's sometimes safer to hide because there are, unfortunately, still so many people who don't understand DID, let alone natural multiples/walk-ins (i figured that was the sort of thing you guys were experiencing?) etc. you don't deserve hurt like that.

twilight

If I told you not to hide irl and be yourself that'd make me a hypocrite it is only through conscious effort that I do not destroy things offline like drawings and journals, etc. that are evidence to my condition. As much as I want to...because that way nobody would ever know but me...I know that in the end that wouldn't be a good thing. I just have to keep reminding myself even if I see them as being "lies" now it was real at the time so they really aren't.

DID breeds secrecy anyway...right? we tend to hide the best we can but once in a while, somebody runs through the gate and escapes. It can be funny or embarrassing or heart breaking....
In a perfect world,we could all feel safe to be who we are anywhere. The world isn't perfect, but we still should have that right.
Eriks