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Sep 17, 2009, 10:08 PM
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Many times over the past 4 years of therapy, t has gone away for long breaks..........about 5-7 weeks. It has been extremely difficult, but I guess I have always survived. This time it is me who is going away.........for 5 weeks. The closer it gets (now 3 weeks away), the more agititated we are all becoming. The little ones are petrified . Like being cast out to sea with nothing to hold onto. We are all fearful of the long break. What can we do? Going to a safe place is difficult for a long time.......
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Sep 17, 2009, 11:24 PM
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kindergirl,
You can do it...one day at a time, maybe you will be distracted you will have a great time! Will you be on a break, like a holiday? Can you ask to email or call your T, just-in-case you need to? Hunny .
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Sep 18, 2009, 12:03 AM
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Kindergirl
Hunny is right. If you can keep communication with your T, that would make the seperation easier. Maybe your T can suggest a safe place where you're going in case of emergency. I wish you luck. 
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Sep 18, 2009, 10:38 AM
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  We just got back from a trip. It was only 2 weeks we were really scared. We practiced things like making schedule for days during trip and we talked about feelings we might have with t before we went on the trip. It helped. The trip was still scary but it was really fun too and we are so proud of all the others and us to. We did just fine! Glad you shared what you are feeling. 
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Sep 19, 2009, 04:31 AM
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We made a comfort book. It has pretty pictures and stickers and quotes and things to help us remember good things. We also write messages in it to help parts that we know will have a hard time. Whenever we go away, we cut out some pretty pictures beforehand and find some stickers and coloured pencils. We get some glue and take it all away with us (it doesn't take up very much space). Then we try to find times where we can be safely alone and spend some time letting the young part stick the pictures and stickers in the book. She can also look through stuff we've put in there previously. Helps makes things feel nice.
We also ask T to write us a note reminding us of how far we've progressed and that we'll get to see him again soon and list some things we can do when things feel very lonely or far away from him.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him. Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there. Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so. 
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Sep 20, 2009, 10:31 AM
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Dinosaurs: A comfort book!  What a wonderful thing to do!   Hunny *
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