[nothemama8]

ppl is telling us we can't talk no more saying we flaming , don't no what that is, why we can't talk why we being punished, others started we being blamed not fair
Amy

[jmo531]

Amy,

You can talk about anything you want to. You wont get in trouble. I promise. It's ok Amy. Everything is ok.

((((((((((((Angie & Amy)))))))))))))))

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ppl is telling us we can't talk no more saying we flaming , don't no what that is, why we can't talk why we being punished, others started we being blamed not fair
Amy

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Amy, I think perhaps taking a break from posting for a few hours would be a good idea. Don't forget that what is said to you and the rest of nothemama8's crew in private messages is just that---private! We are not supposed to post about what has been written to us by others in PM.
Consider taking the afternoon off from PsychCentral and doing things around the house that you and the rest like to do. Maybe take a walk? Watch funny movies? There will be plenty of opportunities to discuss this in the future when tempers have cooled and heads are clearer. I don't think this is the time or place to begin this discussion. I hope you can understand why I am saying this.
kindly,
__zh

[nothemama8]

what is flaming?
Amy

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Flaming
Internet: Flaming
1. Flaming is the practice of posting messages that are deliberately hostile
and insulting to a discussion board (usually on the Internet). Such messages
are called flames.

A flame may have elements of a normal message, but is distinguished by its
intent. A flame is never intended to be constructive, to further clarify a
discussion, or to persuade other people. The motive for flaming is never
dialectic, but rather social or psychological. Flamers are attempting to
assert their authority, or establish a position of superiority.
Occasionally, flamers merely wish to upset and offend other members of the
forum, in which case they are trolls.

Similary, a normal, non-flame message may have elements of a flame - it may
be hostile, for example - but it is not a flame if it is seriously intended
to advance the discussion.

A sequence of flame messages is known as a Flame war.

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Netiquette - Using the Internet
Flaming is personal attacks on other citizens of cyberspace via e-mail. A flame is the kind of message which attacks not just your opinion, but your personality, your looks, your personal habits and your dog's behaviour. In other words flaming has a lot to do with emotional responses, and nothing to do with reasonable disagreement.

This doesn't mean that you can't disagree with people, it would be a very dull discussion if everybody agreed, in fact there would be no point in the discussion at all. But the golden rule is that if you disagree with someone you disagree with the content of their message, you don't descend into personal comments.

There are people who try and start flame wars by posting flame bait, comments which are designed to start a fire or fan the flames. Well, I suppose it's something to do, but really, they should get out more and stop wasting everyone's time.

If you read something that really makes you angry, resist the temptation to fire off an emotional response. Take a deep breath, go for a walk, put the message away until tomorrow. Keep in mind that no-one ever changed their mind because some called them a rude name.

If a discussion you are involved in turns into a flame war, you might want to think about how you can douse the flames. Sometimes the best way is simply not to get involved, if nobody replies the flamer has nothing to burn. Remember that flaming is in direction violation of rules 1 and 4. Flames are not only unkind they are a waste of time and bandwidth. If nothing else, avoid fanning the fire.

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These are broad definitions of flaming. It would be between you and whichever moderator you were in touch with to clarify precisely what was meant.

[nothemama8]

so angie not really bad, think she got pulled into a bad game?
zh I know you not mad at us, we just puzzled
we did what you said we watched movie
Amy

[RhysMadison]

I'm sure things will get straightened out for you. You're a valuable asset to this board & people know you wouldn't do anything to hurt another.
Love,
RM

[Mahali]

Hi Amy,

Yes you are right. Angie is good and so are you and everybody there.

We like you a bunch.

Take care.

place

[SweetCrusader]

I love you ladies

((((((((((((((((((Angie, Amy, Marie, Reah, Laura))))))))))))))))))))



I am sorry that my judgment appeared to be out of synch with others. I didn't mean to advise you poorly

Amy,
Angie is NOT bad at all.
You are most correct in knowing that I am not mad at any of you!
I am so glad you took time for yourself and watched a good movie. Did papa watch too?
I do not know the full details of what happened but no one is considered bad.
You're fine in my book sweetie. Angie and Marie too. You're all a great family unit and I appreciate that you all try to work together communicating with us.

[nothemama8]

Yesterday was a complete He_ day for us, I thank all for being here for us
_zh yes papa watched the movie with us
jmo your the best, we had quite a day huh
Rhymadison your such a dear friend
place yes we feel we are in the right
SweetCrusader the thread was good, I believe ppl are playing favorites , your not at fault, best sissy we got
Angie

[misty]

I dont understand flaming either and when I read what it was I'm not so sure about posting either. I guess though if I do something wrong someone would let me know or atleast I would hope so. I know sometimes I might ride on the edge of flaming when I disagree with some but I do my best not to put anyone down for their beliefs and I'm thinking that is part of what flaming is. I believe we are all intitled to our opinion right wrong or indifferent. You are still here so I'm thinking your posting has not kiked you off the site and that is good isn't it?
lrks

[fairygirl]

I don't really understand about flaming either, so I am not much help. I am glad you are here

Fi

[(JD)]

(((amy))) another thing, if you really need to post but are afraid of what you might say, then post here only in this forum for that time, ok? Often when we are "known" in one forum and then venture out to where there are many more members who do not know us, that's when aren't understood, right?

You can always send me, and others you know here, a nice long PM, just like it was a post!