Need Help RE: Switching

hi everyone. First off i want to thank all of your for your help and encouragement. it's help a lot.

Here's my questions:

I find myself lose time more than usual lately. My husband tells me my
"peeps" as we call them are frequently coming out. Out of the blue, in the middle of the night, and sometimes when I'm just bored.

Is this normal? How can i get a handle on the switching. I don't mind if they want body time but talking with me first has been our agreement. Lately it seems they are rioting or something. (esp. the teens)

Thanks everyone.

For us, me as host has to stay in good energy. If I am low or depressed as me, then my alters will come out without me even realizing it. The switching was a defense mechanism when it was formed... so if switching is happening when you are not consciously sharing space, there is something that has you depleated.

Controled share time comes with an inner agreement. Its hard when there is no trust but try to sit down with them and your husband and make a specific safe times for the crew. for the smaller ones we had a safe place to color and make crafts. the older ones with husband opproval ask them what they want to do that is safe for all then allow time for that. and so on it will come in time but they all have to get use to the ideal that they will not be forgotten or left out. Good luck

ND,

We find our waking small insiders are looking for their stuffy in the night when we get hold of it they fall back asleep. Also, if bored, we found a way to scan a book and get it's essence (unless, it be poetically written with lovely meanings) in about 3 to 4 hours. It's pretty interesting if I/we find some incredibly good books (each alter has their own interests so it's pretty diverse).

By the way, nice to meet you!

Thank you so much for the input. I am trying to please everyone, and sometimes it seems i'm leaving "me" out hehe. We slep with a purple baby blanket. we call it "sarah"s blanket as she is still working on trust and safety.

The book idea is facinating.

I am greatful for your input and i will continue to chat on PC and try my best to stay positive with good energy.

Nice to meet u all and I'll talk to u soon. I will be at group this week

Thanx