Alters telling other alters to hide???

Odd.... I felt Little One just a bit ago and she was telling me "Shhhhhh...." I was not supposed to know she was there. She said Andy told them all they had to hide from me!! WTH??? Have you guys ever had alters hide other alters from you?

I thought I was blended or whatever? Now I am confused.

You heard it, so you know about it. Not all alters agree with each other you know. Might be interesting to find out why they feel the need to hide, though that surely is not unusual.

(((((( WePow ))))))

I was trying to find out but no one on the inside is talking or they are all playing possum. --- Ok I just said that and I heard Little One laugh. Of course I am trying to get her to talk to me and she was enjoying eating the chocolate bunny we had saved. Hummmmmmmm All I know is she said Andy told them they had to stay very quiet until T "went away" or T would make them go away. I don't know what in the heck my brain is doing with all this. urrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

When joining the group as a whole some alters may at first hide then blend with the others thats alright just let her know that you still love her and let Andy know again that by working together as a unit then you do not have to take so much down time or go see T. Now mind you if we had a T like him then we would be back into therapy. Just give your self time and remind your self that you are doing this to help stop hurting each other not the othe way around. In one work book that we used the auther in the intro made this statement to all her inside parts. We have two choices we can either work together and do the things we enjoy or We continue fighting go on Soc. Sec. And live a very dull life fighting each other. Now this woman was a career person with high standing but when push come to shove most of her part were willing to work with each other so that they could enjoy the style of life that they enjoyed living in. Good Luck on the inner pep talk.

In my opinion, they're protecting themselves so they can continue to protect you/each other. Just let them know that they don't need to (if that truly is the case). Maybe let your T know that some alters are hesitant?

I so get this.

My T and I aren't working towards integration or blending at this point. We are still working towards getting more co-consciousness and cooperation between all our parts.

For the most part, our parts will cooperate with each other but often, when things get hard and bad stuff comes up in T one of our littles is pushed out and is the one left to explain it all. They push her out because they are scared and don't want to deal with it. T says that's not fair to our little one or any of our parts. Even though we agree, we can't figure out how to keep it from happening. It's really hard work.

If they are saying they need/want to hide, there is a hurdle that they are having difficulty getting over. Be patient with them. Let them hide a bit if they feel safer and keep working on it in T. It will all smooth over in the end. Make sure that they all know that they are safe and that you love them all, and it's not about sending them away, but helping to make you all a closer family.

WePow,

I would definately go over it with your therapist next time. Could be that there just needs to be a stabilization period, kind of like safe routine. An easing through this next stage by just have like you know, no issues but just a reassurance. My thinking is that it would be a bit like going for a walk with someone (say your therapist) and talking but not having to work out all the stuff...just a warm and comforting breeze blowing...a little sunshine...a gentle meander.

At any rate, you and you and your therapist know best and I support whatever your decision maybe.

Hope you have a decent evening.

Hunny

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Thank you all for the support and insights. I will see T today and will bring up these points with him!!

Big safe Hugs from all of us. No matter what you are still needed and wanted here.

((((Wepow))))

Thank you for sharing that. I hope you were able to talk to t today and to figure out what is going on. I know for us we had some that went into hiding afraid that they were going to be cast out. They did not understand all that was going on and they left going so far inside that I did not know until later that they were still there. They felt they needed to go within where it was safe for sometimes they do just what they used to have to do, for this is what they know. To take and then go within to safety.

I hope that you are finding some sort of answers for you and all within. Look forward to hearing from you and to hear what you and t came up with as to what is happening. When I went into treatment for 10 months, they wanted us to integrate. We had no idea what they were talking about. We did not have any awareness of one another or any working together at all. They were afraid that if they could not do what was being asked, they would be in trouble. This was the second time that they went into hiding.

Everyone within knows that it takes a lot to keep the system safe and they have been doing it for a long time now so they are going to protect what they know to protect. Sometimes it is a matter of giving them time and the knowledge that you are not making them go anywhere. They will always be a part of who you are and what you are.

Hope all went okay today. Looking forward to hearing from you. Hang in there and know that we are here for you always. Sending many gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps

(((( dps )))) thank you for sharing your experience. I told T. He said I looked happy to have Little One back and to know they were just in hiding right now. But I was a bit sad at the same time because I want to be healthy mentally and not worry about an alter trying to do me in or come out when I am under stress and doing something that will cost me a job or relationship. urrrrrrrrrrr!

I am getting ready to go through the hardest part of healing I think. I processed the rest of my life but never have been allowed to be angry with my dad. I need to go through that part now and sense that this hiding has something to do with every part of me being terrified of what we need to do.

WePow,

It is the one I am in at the moment that always seems the most difficult but I agree anger is hard.

To direct the anger/rage to the appropriate source of harm. How to? What to do? How to act on the anger without hurting me or anyone else. It appears I am at a similar place again WePow, wiith the memories of the abuse of the initial psychologist I had. I cannot change him, he is dead and gone. I cannot change the structure he originally came from, they probably would wash their hands of it. I cannot go to family members of his as they all were in another country. So, what do I do with this anger, even rage?

I found the movie: The Brave One kinda helped me going through the last time I had to address the rage against another perpetrator but this one seems to be bigger for me, maybe because I was older when it happened and so I am angry at me too for letting it happen. The crime no less damaging, so I don't know...I hope others have suggestions too. I don't find hitting pillows or the bed or sofa or other things has any effect upon me.

This is what I am working on in my therapy, I think. I have put it on hold so I cannot comment further but it rings true somehow.

All the best,
Hunny