a mock letter of intent to our abusers and trusted friends

Due to the server vulgarity of delegation of duty the original Watchdog group has been dismantled. For the fallowing reason:

*Dark soul behavior
*defecation of character of my self and those that are true warriors and friends.
*non-consensual body contact
*verbal, emotional, spiritual, and physical abuse.
*no protection from the above within the ranks and from those outside the group.

Those that had clamed to be looking out for us where in fact our worst enemies. All those that have been found to participate in the above activities have been fired and given notice to leave this body alone.
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During this time that we are hereby regrouping the fallowing statements are to help those within the group understand the new ZERO TOLERANCE RULE. Under no way is this body and inner spirit members are to be exposed to any type of abuse or dark soul behavior from its members. All members are invite only. Invitation will be based on personal and public actions towards other and how they apply the Warrior’s code to their life.
These fallowing statement are what our foundation is to be built on:

*The foundation of any successful relationship has three ingredients that must be present-- respect, trust, and intimacy. These three cornerstones of foundation bring the forth ingredient into being. That forth element is unity. When we employ the idea of unity or working together for common goals, then we have created the foundation for love.
*Having the AUDACITY to tell the truth in the face of opposition and chaos, in the company of those who live with constant, self-deception, is the mark of a peacemaker.
*The Warriors’ Vow is to protect the elders, life givers, and children until his / her last breath.
*Under no exceptions do the clan members have sexual contact with the Anderson body.
*If at any time that an alter feels unsafe that will lead to instant dismissal for that person.

THE COYOTE CLAN

The New watchdog group will now be called the Coyote Clan. This group will be made up of those that are willing to help and support the Anderson Group. These men and women will be considered as Spiritual Soul Mates for these people have what different alters need to heal and grow from the abuse that we have endured in the past. In the physical world these people will be acknowledge has in-laws. They are trusted family members that are helping the whole to heal and grow.
From with in this group one man will be selected to be life mate to the body and host/Ceo of the body group. The skills needed is the ability to enforce the Zero Tolerance Rule with out predigest. To help love and protect all within the body. To be a support person for those within the Coyote Clan. This person will need to have strength of character and a true warriors heart to love and understand who and what I/we are. In the past this person was a Marine, that truly lived by the code of the Warrior.
The fallowing vow is what we are looking for from our true life mate.
I, ____ take _____ to be my shield mate and companion, my life partner and comrade-in-arms. I vow that we shell be separated only by our own choice or over our dead bodies. I vow that when we fight , I will see you as my honorable opponent and always strike fairly and with respect. I will be your sparring partner and keep you keen and sharp. I will never take you for granted nor belittle you. I will love you with all the passion of a warrior and treat each night as if it were our last.
*The above statements have been gathered by Southern Lady and Smart Mouth and fully supported by all those within.

....my heart feels yaaaa....oh honorable warrior

(((((Anderson)))))

I absolutely love this! This is a very clear statement of what you want and need. This is a very well thought out document. This was just awesome. I really appreciated this part:

What wonderful writing. I really love it when you post. You have such marvellous, powerful words. Thank you, Anderson.

Cris

These are the vows that we took with the person that was our mate but has now gone to the land of our ancestors. He was a Marine. With him We learned to be strong yet weak for he gave us the courage to be vulnerable with a strong man.
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Officiant: We come here today to witness the union of these two brave souls. Do you come forth today to unite with each other?
Couple: We do.
Officiant: Why do you wish to do so?
Bride: Beloved, when I first saw you, I knew that you were strong enough to my mate, my match, my companion, a lover who would not break beneath my desires nor flinch from my intensity. I knew also that you were honorable and would respect me as I am. You are as awa-inspiring as a great city under siege. I value you as no other in the world.
Groom: Beloved, when I first saw you, I knew that you were my mate and match in every way, a lover who would not cling but stand independently at my side. I knew also that you were stalwart and constant, able to be firm in your word. You are as beautiful and terrible as an army poised for battle. I respect and desire you as no other in the world for the warrior that you are.
Bride: My beloved, my sword, my sword arm, are at your service, to fight at your side.
Groom: My beloved, my sword and sword arm, are at your service, to fight in your honor.
Bride: My wit and cunning are at your disposal.
Groom: My cleverness and agility are laid here for your use.
Bride: My strength will defend your back.
Groom: My power will defend your name.
Bride: I will be a shield for your hearth and hopes.
Groom: I will be a shield for your heart and holdings.
Bride: With you, I need no armor. With you, I can be vulnerable and know I will not be betrayed. I trust you.
Groom: With you, I need no armor. With you, I can be vulnerable and know I will not be mocked. I trust you.
Bride: I will be your strong right arm.
Groom: I will be your strong left arm.
Repeated by both: Repeat after me. I,____, take _____ to be my shield-mate and companion_ My life partner and comrade-in-arms. I vow that we shall be separated only by our own choice or over our dead bodies. I will strike fairly and with respect. I will be your sparring partner and keep you keen and sharp. I will never take you for granted nor belittle you. I will shore you up in times of weakness and take pride in your strength. I will love you with all the passion of a warrior and treat every night as if it were our last.
Officient: Bring forth the rings!
Bride: With this ring I claim you for my own.(place ring on the grooms finger)
Groom: I accept your claim. With this ring I claim you as my own.(placing ring on brides finger)
Bride: I accept your claim.

..........beautiful........just........simply marvalous..................

.....it reminds me of a taoist proverb that a friend left on one of my visitor messages.........................

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you stength,while loving someone deeply gives you courage"

....I envy and feel sad for the love you have once known...........

....myself.....I have not ever known this feeling...hence...my envy.....

....I have only read....and heard of this thing.......

....and my sadness....is from my imagination........

....but I do not miss...what I have not ever had.....

.............my heart sheds tears.....in hopes of the peace to come....

.................sparrow

Hunny's gonna havta read this after, she can't see through the tears.

“Science without religion is lame.
Religion without science is blind.”
Albert Einstein

(((((HUNNY))))) and ((((SPARROWSTAIL)))
We be up half the night thinking of the good and the bad but each time we ask why we still here we think back to those that had been there for us. Those around us say we can have it again. So please keep us in prayers that we be able to find someone that can accept and wove us the way we are.
Safe hugs to both of you and all that is within you!

((((( Anderson ))))))

Your vows show a respectful commitment, with maturity, dignified and strong. My goodness, how cherishable. Loving the imagery of sword and shield. Vulnerability but also courage and strength. Weak but protective of each other. True devotion to the physical, mental and emotional in each other. Truly beautiful!

How honouring of you to present this to us all here on this day. It truly has blessed me.

For me and others here and for you Anderson, when we don't know what a 'good' relationship consists of we pray: God grant us the courage to keep the bar raised to hold to this kind of standard in my/our life for relationships within, relationships with others and for those who have hope for an intimate presence with someone else.

Just so tender and strong at the same time. Thanks Anderson.

Sparrowstail, I love this proverb too: "Being deeply loved by someone gives you stength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage"

“Science without religion is lame.
Religion without science is blind.”
Albert Einstein

We be sitting thinking of the time that we had real friends and those that where chocen family. The Younger ones cry at night thinking about those that loved an accepted us. The box that one of the papa bears gave us has both hope and pain with it for those that gave us those memiors are in the land of our ancestors. We be so lonely that those within want to go to be with them.
some of the newer ones say they be here for us but it was not like with the others . They laughed and hug us and made us feel loved in person. They did not make us live in isolation just because we be different. The darkies made others hate us for things we have no control over yet we be condemd for it.
They no hear us for so long those within are enjoying being near others and not being hurt but we still scared that they go back to old ways. We lived to long with others going behind us telling people that they could do what ever they wanted to do to us and no cares so all is free. we no free. we feel the pain of those that hurt us and the pain from crying for help and no one cares.
For those that can live in the moment this is a good time for us it is just when the shadows of past abuse come forward we wonder if we are truely in the sun where shadows live no more.
To be accepted and be with friends is a dream that we pray for every night to the great spirit.

Sorry we just need to unload here.
We showed this letter to some of the people that we like and asked if they would let us met others that would feel comfrotable being with us. Not just be a coyotie in giving us safe harbor but also give us a chance to have more positive people in our lifes. The coyoties are in both extremes one to force everyone away from us and not even talk to our face. To those that are willing to talk to us but not willing to spend quality time with us. Because of the fact that in the past there have been those abuse the body when different alters where alpha. It has only been at church that we have had people spend time with us given us a chance to get to know them before they ask us to drop our clouths. We just tired of those hurting us and not realizing that they be wrong. We told one person last sunday we are tired of loving men that only hurt us less and give us protection from those that hurt us really bad. We are still praying for safe housing and a means so that the body will no longer be availabe for more abuse and a chance to truely heal so we can move and find hope with a man that wont hold who and what we are againts us.
Those here are what help us get through the day to day BS. we just hope this new T is able to help us heal from the BS of those that clam to help but are not able to hear what we truely need.

I was out walking today again...and that feeling of being vulnerable came upon me again. Who is the keeper of this person and what value is there within?

Some people were walking with others and I looked and thought they must be valued because they have him, her, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, child, adult, even some with a dog but me/us we walked alone. Now don't get me wrong sometimes we walk with our good, current family and would not change it for anything but how is it that this feeling of being so alone in the whole wide world can come upon me and I look around and try to gauge the value of self?

Is it a waste of time, comparing a so called 'happy' past (more likely an ignorant past) or thinking they have something I want with what really is what I consider myself to be or have. Maybe i was just afraid again. Afraid of someone getting me and it was a test to see if I had grown and learned how I could stand strong.

This thread to me has spurned much thought.

Thank you, Anderson.

“Science without religion is lame.
Religion without science is blind.”
Albert Einstein