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Apr 25, 2006, 01:03 PM
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Do you sometimes find yourself punishing friends unconsciously in ways in which you have been abused. I don't mean that I am abusing friends, just distancing etc. I am finding myself being triggered and distancing in ways I never used to. Also "Lucy" is "out" a lot... and hating it
 I am feeling like not posting and that I shouldn't post but I just don't know 
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Apr 25, 2006, 01:16 PM
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It is hard to let people get close...for me close means pain, loss and a struggle. That is one of my best survival skills....
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Apr 25, 2006, 01:28 PM
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(((((((((((((((( Fuzzy )))))))))))))))
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Apr 25, 2006, 02:42 PM
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Just keep posting and know we are here, ya can't get rid of us cuz we need your strenght (sp)
Love ya
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Apr 25, 2006, 05:19 PM
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Apr 25, 2006, 05:27 PM
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oh i test. I feel like i have to.
Maybe its just more comfortable to be hurting Oh fuzzy you know you know I understand 
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Apr 25, 2006, 06:42 PM
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Fuzzy,
I test too. Getting close only means pain. I try, they get close and then hurt me, so it is hard for me too. I like it when you post. You keep me company! SongBird
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Apr 26, 2006, 08:07 AM
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You need to keep yourself and Lucy safe first and foremost. After that you can think about others. There is always the possibility that you have outgrown certain relationships and idecided to move on. We all need to distance ourselves at times for our well being. I am sure you have done this in a kind way. I hope you start feeling better soon.
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Apr 26, 2006, 09:45 AM
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))))))) ) ) )fuzzywuzzybear ((((((( ( ( ( (
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Apr 26, 2006, 11:51 AM
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Yes you are right that many ppl do that. PPl do that to their Ts also... imo... seeing if friends or Ts "can handle" what you know... to see if they will stay if they had a glimpse of what you feel. I think it's part of the trust issue.
Sometimes though, ppl who have been hurt do strike out hurting others in the same way. Withdrawal of feelings, preventing interactions with others, is a form of coping but also of testing, imo. When we realize our actions, and some of the reasons behind them, we are on the way of correcting our actions and feelings, and on the way to healing!!!!  You are doing so well, fuzzy!
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Apr 26, 2006, 08:08 PM
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Apr 26, 2006, 11:05 PM
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((((((((((((((((((((Fuzzypaws)))))))))))))))))))
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Apr 28, 2006, 02:34 PM
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(((((((((((((( all of place ))))))))))))))
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Apr 28, 2006, 08:10 PM
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((((((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))))
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