[Sprite~]

lately I've had a problem with the little ones taking over. I don't understand on an adult level how to deal with kids.

I got a dog and now it's too much for me and my furkids that I already have, to take care of. This has put me in a frenzy with trying to settle the parts that want to keep her and it's making me sick to think of taking her back. I took her to a kennel for the weekend to distance myself and get a grip. Tried to spend some time with the little ones and reassure them that the dog will be ok and that we need to keep peace in our nest to recover. It's breaking many hearts and there's alot of anguish over this. I've been having flashbacks and pain in the body that I experienced as a child. I have been feeling like I've spun out of control at some points and just want to cry.

I'm writing this in hopes of getting support for what I need. To learn how to control the desires of the little ones as well as not feel cruel for giving the dog back to the shelter so I can take care of the crew I already have.

I dislike pain. The physical one that comes where I was injured and ignored as a child and the emotional one of having to deal with very upset little ones inside who have grown to love this dog. It's been a heartbreaking ordeal. I want the flashbacks and phantom pain to stop.

[Claritytoo]

Originally Posted by Sprite~

lately I've had a problem with the little ones taking over. I don't understand on an adult level how to deal with kids.

I got a dog and now it's too much for me and my furkids that I already have, to take care of. This has put me in a frenzy with trying to settle the parts that want to keep her and it's making me sick to think of taking her back. I took her to a kennel for the weekend to distance myself and get a grip. Tried to spend some time with the little ones and reassure them that the dog will be ok and that we need to keep peace in our nest to recover. It's breaking many hearts and there's alot of anguish over this. I've been having flashbacks and pain in the body that I experienced as a child. I have been feeling like I've spun out of control at some points and just want to cry.

I'm writing this in hopes of getting support for what I need. To learn how to control the desires of the little ones as well as not feel cruel for giving the dog back to the shelter so I can take care of the crew I already have.

I dislike pain. The physical one that comes where I was injured and ignored as a child and the emotional one of having to deal with very upset little ones inside who have grown to love this dog. It's been a heartbreaking ordeal. I want the flashbacks and phantom pain to stop.

It might be a good idea to cry and release pent up emotion from everyone.
Maybe than they will be able to hear what you are saying and understand that it is best for everyone. I had a dog for three years and had to find him a new home because my living situation had changed. It was more difficult than I thought it would be but in the end it was the right thing for him and us.

[betsylou723]

I agree with Claritytoo. This lets them know that you are upset and wwill possibly allow them to see the reasoning behind what needs to be done.

[Sprite~]

Claritytoo~ thank you for the suggestion. It usually does work out for me to cry! I think I'm so drained right now, though, that that's not an option.

Thank you, Betsylou, as well, for your suggestion.

I have opted to board her till Tuesday when I take her back to the kennel. I needed the distance and am hoping that feelings don't come flooding back when I pick her up on Monday afternoon for the night. Man, this is really tough to get so attached.