[TheAlliance]

I am new, and this is my first time here posting in the Dissociative Disorder Forum. My two strongest altars, Guardian and Phantom are in conflict over a health situation with a relative. Man, the headaches have been brutal. Guardian thinks we should help and care for this sick relative. Phantom thinks we should leave her in the Nursing Home and not go back. We lived with her for two years before her stroke, and she was very difficult to live with, very critical. I am afraid that she will improve and come home and we will be caring for her everyday. I feel so guilty that I feel this way.

[Claritytoo]

Originally Posted by TheAlliance

I am new, and this is my first time here posting in the Dissociative Disorder Forum. My two strongest altars, Guardian and Phantom are in conflict over a health situation with a relative. Man, the headaches have been brutal. Guardian thinks we should help and care for this sick relative. Phantom thinks we should leave her in the Nursing Home and not go back. We lived with her for two years before her stroke, and she was very difficult to live with, very critical. I am afraid that she will improve and come home and we will be caring for her everyday. I feel so guilty that I feel this way.

It's ok to have those feelings. There are people without DID who have the same thoughts and feelings. Don't feel guilty. At least you are identifying how you feel and trying to work out what would be best for everyone. But I do think you need to talk about this with your therapist. It is good sometimes just to hear your thoughts out loud and get feed back from someone you trust. I find if I talk enough I can sometimes find the answer. Feel better

[TheAlliance]

Originally Posted by Claritytoo

It's ok to have those feelings. There are people without DID who have the same thoughts and feelings. Don't feel guilty. At least you are identifying how you feel and trying to work out what would be best for everyone. But I do think you need to talk about this with your therapist. It is good sometimes just to hear your thoughts out loud and get feed back from someone you trust. I find if I talk enough I can sometimes find the answer. Feel better

I am seeing my Therapist tomorrow, and this is definitely going to be part of our discussion. He usually can lead me in the right direction. Thanks for your help.
TheAlliance