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Old Jul 10, 2013, 04:08 PM
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I went to session today and my t explained to me that I was not the same as when I came into the office. I asked her what she meant and she described me as expressing myself as a young girl. I don't recall feeling that way and I don't think of me as a girl. At least not me. So hearing that upset me, got me agitated and annoyed. I am still annoyed. I emailed my t to let her know but I'm still annoyed. Also she wants us to try to do what each other does. So if some of us dig a hole I should let ones that don't dig a hole to try. WTF is that. How am I supposed to do that. How would something like that happen. Has anyone ever done that????? I wouldn't even know where to start. +

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Old Jul 10, 2013, 04:16 PM
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Sorry you had a bad session. Not sure what she means either, but maybe she can explain it better the next time you see her. Wishing you well.
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Old Jul 12, 2013, 05:27 AM
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Yes I would be asking your T why she wanted them all to do the same thing. Sounds a bit strange. That's probably why your body kicked off later as they dont want to dig the hole. Tell them they dont have too, unless they know why and how it is going to help.
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Old Jul 12, 2013, 07:00 AM
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Yes I would be asking your T why she wanted them all to do the same thing. Sounds a bit strange. That's probably why your body kicked off later as they dont want to dig the hole. Tell them they dont have too, unless they know why and how it is going to help.
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My t emailed me something I will have to reread it to see what it's about. Those are good questions. Thanks
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Old Jul 12, 2013, 01:39 PM
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I went to session today and my t explained to me that I was not the same as when I came into the office. I asked her what she meant and she described me as expressing myself as a young girl. I don't recall feeling that way and I don't think of me as a girl. At least not me. So hearing that upset me, got me agitated and annoyed. I am still annoyed. I emailed my t to let her know but I'm still annoyed. Also she wants us to try to do what each other does. So if some of us dig a hole I should let ones that don't dig a hole to try. WTF is that. How am I supposed to do that. How would something like that happen. Has anyone ever done that????? I wouldn't even know where to start. +
I have never done that but I do know its a therapy approach that promotes things like team work, co consciousnes, sharing, getting along, all those things normal people learn in preschool, kindergarten and grade school that have to do with socialization and developing a sense of belonging, a sense of being connected to more than just the me me me attitudes..

how to go about doing it... well thats sort of the easy part.. you the host or you the alters purposely set aside time to do things that you enjoy. the alters that share that same interest will automatically do those things..

example

if you know an alter reads... promote this activity by keeping a supply of reading materials around in various topics, themes, plot lines that you know you and the alters enjoy.

if you know some alters enjoy playing a sport, promote this activity by setting aside time and opportunities to do those sports.

if you know some of your alters enjoy playing with dolls or trucks or other toys, ...promote this activity by keeping a small toy box with a variety of toys and stuffed animals in it..

examples using your past posts...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/disso...ml#post2735588

in one post you stated you had two little girls that like to huddle together and talk, you stated you hug you and tell them they are safe...and you have others that ask to do things and you do it with them....

thats exactly what this therapy approach is all about...doing things together with your alters and letting them do things together like huddling, hugging, or playing what ever they want to do.

maybe you can go back and reread your past posts.. by doing this I have found many instances where you have been doing exactly what this therapist wants to happen...you talk with your alters, you listen to your alters, you find ways to do the things they want to do and you do things that will get the alters sharing information and activities....

another suggestion...maybe you can ask your therapist for ideas since your alters do talk with your therapist too. you can also ask your alters for ideas since you are able to communicate with them.
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Old Jul 12, 2013, 04:13 PM
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I have never done that but I do know its a therapy approach that promotes things like team work, co consciousnes, sharing, getting along, all those things normal people learn in preschool, kindergarten and grade school that have to do with socialization and developing a sense of belonging, a sense of being connected to more than just the me me me attitudes..

how to go about doing it... well thats sort of the easy part.. you the host or you the alters purposely set aside time to do things that you enjoy. the alters that share that same interest will automatically do those things..

example

if you know an alter reads... promote this activity by keeping a supply of reading materials around in various topics, themes, plot lines that you know you and the alters enjoy.

if you know some alters enjoy playing a sport, promote this activity by setting aside time and opportunities to do those sports.

if you know some of your alters enjoy playing with dolls or trucks or other toys, ...promote this activity by keeping a small toy box with a variety of toys and stuffed animals in it..

examples using your past posts...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/disso...ml#post2735588

in one post you stated you had two little girls that like to huddle together and talk, you stated you hug you and tell them they are safe...and you have others that ask to do things and you do it with them....

thats exactly what this therapy approach is all about...doing things together with your alters and letting them do things together like huddling, hugging, or playing what ever they want to do.

maybe you can go back and reread your past posts.. by doing this I have found many instances where you have been doing exactly what this therapist wants to happen...you talk with your alters, you listen to your alters, you find ways to do the things they want to do and you do things that will get the alters sharing information and activities....

another suggestion...maybe you can ask your therapist for ideas since your alters do talk with your therapist too. you can also ask your alters for ideas since you are able to communicate with them.
Thank you for responding to my post. The other day my t asked me to punch the couch. I did and before I could look back at her I had switched to the one who is physically strong and is a protector. I don't know how to not switch. If I do something that is a specific alters job I switch to that alter. There are times when there are a few of us in the room at the same time. We can hear each other and switch off to speak to our t but we still switch in order to talk. I don't understand how to do something specific to an alter and not switch to that alter. I can't figure it out in my head.
Thanks for this!
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Old Jul 12, 2013, 08:48 PM
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Thank you for responding to my post. The other day my t asked me to punch the couch. I did and before I could look back at her I had switched to the one who is physically strong and is a protector. I don't know how to not switch. If I do something that is a specific alters job I switch to that alter. There are times when there are a few of us in the room at the same time. We can hear each other and switch off to speak to our t but we still switch in order to talk. I don't understand how to do something specific to an alter and not switch to that alter. I can't figure it out in my head.
I see.. to do that you will need to do something called grounding and something called practice and lots of it..

grounding is where you purposely set out to stay in the present moment, purposely checking in with your self and using things that you already know brings you comfort.. and by practice I mean you purposely do it even when you are not triggered..

when you are eating breakfast do so with the purpose of paying attention to what you are eating, how its making you feel, focus on all the details that eating breakfast entails.

when you get dressed in the morning do so with purposeful attention to what you are choosing and why, how those clothes make you feel, was there a reason why you chose that attire...

even being here on psych central do so with a purpose and attention at being here in the moment. explore the colors, smilies and variety of posts....

the more you practice being in the here and now and mindful of .....this very moment... of your day the more you will be able to remain grounded during those times when you want to be.

Grounding/mindfulness doesnt always happen the first time or even the first month. it happens for each person at what ever rate it right for them. Some people are able to learn grounding and mindfulness the first time they try it others it takes practice practice practice and more practice...

your treatment provider will be able to help you with more ideas of how to ground yourself and live a more mindful life..

there is also a grounding thread in the PTSD boards that may be able to help you.
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Old Jul 13, 2013, 11:09 AM
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I see.. to do that you will need to do something called grounding and something called practice and lots of it..

grounding is where you purposely set out to stay in the present moment, purposely checking in with your self and using things that you already know brings you comfort.. and by practice I mean you purposely do it even when you are not triggered..

when you are eating breakfast do so with the purpose of paying attention to what you are eating, how its making you feel, focus on all the details that eating breakfast entails.

when you get dressed in the morning do so with purposeful attention to what you are choosing and why, how those clothes make you feel, was there a reason why you chose that attire...

even being here on psych central do so with a purpose and attention at being here in the moment. explore the colors, smilies and variety of posts....

the more you practice being in the here and now and mindful of .....this very moment... of your day the more you will be able to remain grounded during those times when you want to be.

Grounding/mindfulness doesnt always happen the first time or even the first month. it happens for each person at what ever rate it right for them. Some people are able to learn grounding and mindfulness the first time they try it others it takes practice practice practice and more practice...

your treatment provider will be able to help you with more ideas of how to ground yourself and live a more mindful life..

there is also a grounding thread in the PTSD boards that may be able to help you.
Thank you for the advice. I will try it. But how do I know who is supposed to be grounded? When I get dressed in the morning it is a matter of agreement between a few of us. There are times when I have to change a shirt or shorts because someone isn't in agreement with the choice. After some discussion most often everyone agrees to change the shirt or shorts. I get confused with the practical aspect of grounding. I just don't know who is the one that is supposed remain out. I don't understand how that choice happens.
Thanks for this!
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Old Jul 13, 2013, 11:48 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I will try it. But how do I know who is supposed to be grounded? When I get dressed in the morning it is a matter of agreement between a few of us. There are times when I have to change a shirt or shorts because someone isn't in agreement with the choice. After some discussion most often everyone agrees to change the shirt or shorts. I get confused with the practical aspect of grounding. I just don't know who is the one that is supposed remain out. I don't understand how that choice happens.
the great thing about grounding is that it doesnt matter who is out.. its something that is very helpful to everyone host and alters alike..you do it and what ever alters want to join in and use it to will do so. those that dont want to wont. it will still benefit those who want to even though there may be some that dont want to use grounding. its a personal choice to use it or not.
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Old Jul 14, 2013, 01:47 AM
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I went to session today and my t explained to me that I was not the same as when I came into the office. I asked her what she meant and she described me as expressing myself as a young girl. I don't recall feeling that way and I don't think of me as a girl. At least not me. So hearing that upset me, got me agitated and annoyed. I am still annoyed. I emailed my t to let her know but I'm still annoyed. Also she wants us to try to do what each other does. So if some of us dig a hole I should let ones that don't dig a hole to try. WTF is that. How am I supposed to do that. How would something like that happen. Has anyone ever done that????? I wouldn't even know where to start. +
Sometimes I wonder myself if I do that. I usually judge it on the reaction of my T. Unfortunately whatever the case may be. I get very suspicious about what she is thinking and then the whole session seems useless because I dont want to talk.
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