she/he/it is trying to kill me

likewater · Sep 15, 2013, 02:05 AM

Maybe because i'm under stress and that's when everyone comes out to play? I missed a half our of time the other morning and now the monster one i usually try to keep in locjdown is out and telling me and willing me to hurt myself. Stupid abuser, get out of my brain and spirit! You are just mean and nasty. If i could kill YOU i would and you are scaring the kids. Aaaaaarghh

pegasus · Sep 15, 2013, 07:32 AM

Is that an alter or a memory of a past abuser? Be safe.

Claritytoo · Sep 15, 2013, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by likewater

Maybe because i'm under stress and that's when everyone comes out to play? I missed a half our of time the other morning and now the monster one i usually try to keep in locjdown is out and telling me and willing me to hurt myself. Stupid abuser, get out of my brain and spirit! You are just mean and nasty. If i could kill YOU i would and you are scaring the kids. Aaaaaarghh

Ask he or she why they are telling you to hurt yourself. I did that with one of my alters that said the same things and it turned out he was originally a helper but was angry that the rest of us didn't thank him for helping us when we were younger. We all talked it out and apologized for not acknowledging him. He felt better and as time has gone forward he has kept from saying anything hurtful. He will every now and than start to say something out of habit but quickly stops. He is a helper and we are all glad he is here.

WePow · Sep 16, 2013, 05:12 PM

Dealing with alters who are hurting the whole can be a challenge. What I have learned is that they are often the most hurt part. They can identify themselves with the abusers because at one point it brought the "power" back into our hands.

Try to give unconditional love to the alter and listen to them. Find out what it is they are trying to do in the long run. Alters are made by us to save us at some point. Find out what they are thinking and feeling and why.