[Claritytoo]

my little ones think I didn't protect them because they got hurt. but i did ptotect them because they are from me. they exist because it was the only way to protect us when we were little. i am trying to make sense of this. I can't seem to understand it. there are parts but are parts i created to protect us. but I din't protect us because they got hurt. but they exist because i was protecting. I am not able to figure this out.

[possum220]

Would it help to let your little ones know that you will try and protect them the best you can now? Hugging stuffies might help to comfort them.

[HazelGirl]

Remind them that you were a child then, and couldn't protect them. But you are an adult now and can, and that you promise to protect them now.

[Claritytoo]

Thank you possum 220 and hazelgirl for your kind words. I am having trouble admitting that I didn't keep us from getting hurt. That the original was hurt. She had to be or we wouldn't be here. We are here because she was hurt. We were created to protect her from dieing. I see me as a protector that I can protect everyone but I am confused. Who am I protecting. The parts? The original got hurt. I am just, I just am confused. Like there is no reason for us to be here. We are only here because of abuse that happened to the original when she was little. We hold the memories and pain and sadness. I not sure why I'm here.

[HazelGirl]

Originally Posted by Claritytoo

Thank you possum 220 and hazelgirl for your kind words. I am having trouble admitting that I didn't keep us from getting hurt. That the original was hurt. She had to be or we wouldn't be here. We are here because she was hurt. We were created to protect her from dieing. I see me as a protector that I can protect everyone but I am confused. Who am I protecting. The parts? The original got hurt. I am just, I just am confused. Like there is no reason for us to be here. We are only here because of abuse that happened to the original when she was little. We hold the memories and pain and sadness. I not sure why I'm here.

You are all in this thing called life together. Yes, she was hurt and that's how you came to be, but you still have value. You wouldn't have been created if you didn't. You are a part of her and she needed you then and needs you now. You did your job as well as you could, and she is alive because of you. She isn't in danger of dying anymore, but she does still need you. You are still a part of her and are helping her hold her memories and life together.

[Fuzzybear]

[Claritytoo]

Originally Posted by HazelGirl

You are all in this thing called life together. Yes, she was hurt and that's how you came to be, but you still have value. You wouldn't have been created if you didn't. You are a part of her and she needed you then and needs you now. You did your job as well as you could, and she is alive because of you. She isn't in danger of dying anymore, but she does still need you. You are still a part of her and are helping her hold her memories and life together.

I kept thinking she was saved. I hadn't thought that she was actually hurt. That there was no one there to stop him from hurting her. So we came out to take the pain and sadness. It is still hard to admit that she was hurt. It makes us think we didn't do enough. But we wouldn't be here if she wasn't hurt. It is too confusing for me. My head is spinning

[HazelGirl]

Originally Posted by Claritytoo

I kept thinking she was saved. I hadn't thought that she was actually hurt. That there was no one there to stop him from hurting her. So we came out to take the pain and sadness. It is still hard to admit that she was hurt. It makes us think we didn't do enough. But we wouldn't be here if she wasn't hurt. It is too confusing for me. My head is spinning

I understand. But sometimes, bad things happen and there's nothing we can do about it, even if we try. You did everything you could. Good job because you did succeed. She made it and is okay now. You did your job as well as you could and it's okay now.

[granny475]

Originally Posted by Claritytoo

I kept thinking she was saved. I hadn't thought that she was actually hurt. That there was no one there to stop him from hurting her. So we came out to take the pain and sadness. It is still hard to admit that she was hurt. It makes us think we didn't do enough. But we wouldn't be here if she wasn't hurt. It is too confusing for me. My head is spinning

YOU are soooooo strong !!!! You came to take the pain and sadness that no one else could. And, you have a right to be angry!!!
(from our 5 yr old) We feel sad a lot, but we don't blame her ... we blame to ones who hurted us (the big ones help us spell and type)