[Pastel Kitten]

I don't know if this warrants a trigger warning but I put it just to be safe. Last night I had a very scary encounter with a friend of mine. I do not know this person outside of the internet, but had been in contact with him on skype for about half a year.

Anyway, I knew that he was not well since quite a while ago. He told me he hears extremely negative voices every moment of the day. Sometimes they scream at him. He also has visual hallucinations 24/7 of equally disturbing nature. I thought he might be schizophrenic, but last night made me question that. He messaged me on skype, acting his normal self, and asked how I was doing, etc. Not too long into the conversation though, and I noticed he started using "we" instead of "I." I didn't question it at first, but after it continued, I asked him what he meant by "we" and if he was okay.

He said he was not okay, and that he was not himself. He then told me that the person I had been talking to the whole time is not the "original host" of the body...that the original host was locked away at age 3 or 4 due to trauma, and that about 9 others dwell inside that body. (I'm going to refer to my friend as Jim, for the sake of anonymity.) He told me that I am a threat to his and the others' existence because I make Jim happy, and that Jim needs to die, but he can't die so long as I'm keeping him happy. I asked him why he wanted Jim to die so badly, and he told me that "Jim is not meant for this world" and that I'm making him suffer, by caring about him.

When I made it clear I would not simply stop caring about my friend, he started telling me that it's all my fault he and the others will suffer forever or something along those lines, and that I "would be surprised by the monsters under my bed." I started to get really scared (I have really high anxiety and bad paranoia as it is) and he kept repeating that all I had to do was leave. He asked if I wanted to talk to Jim again, and I said yes.

Then Jim started talking to me. He told me he was sorry for all of that, and not to worry..but I was incredibly worried. He told me it was best to leave, for my own happiness, and that he was so incredibly obsessed with me that if I stayed, I'd become a "backfiring anomaly" whatever that means. He also said that when that happens, he may go on a murderous rampage. That scared me so badly. I was shaking and told him I couldn't handle this anymore, and blocked him. Did I do the right thing? I care for him a lot, but that was not good for me. I could feel my paranoia skyrocketing and I am already in a depressive phase as it is, where anxiety is high.

Does this sound like DID? I'm so worried about him, but I can't do anything.

[Elizabeth Swan]

no no... you did absolutely right.... i would have done the same... don't contact jim again... it's not safe for you.. and don't feel bad about it at all

[finding_my_way]

if i encountered someone like that and they knew about my dissociation....if it was the first time over however long they first mentioned that kind of thing outside of having hallucinations and voices screaming at them, i would highly question them and think that either they were trying to mimic dissociation and use it as an elaborate story line for whatever reason in that moment or maybe even someone having 'fun' with a friend just to mess with someone. then again, i'm kind of a paranoid person and had a kind of relationship with someone with DID online for around two or so years who i also talked with on the phone and years later when they found someone else to be with in person emailed me as an apparent alter saying they had never liked me like that and i must have been confused...it messed with me so bad..and ever since then (and a few other incidents with people online), i take what people say to me a little less serious but also have learned to separate myself from them when it becomes unhealthy or scary for me.

i think you did the right thing in protecting yourself. i would do the same thing. your safety is the most important thing.

[Georgia Bridge]

Is good idea to block person.
Person is dangerous.
Not be all people with MPD be dangerous.

[lonely loser]

You did the right thing. Dont feel bad at all. Especially if it is making your problems worse.

[Pastel Kitten]

Thanks everyone. I'm glad to know I did the right thing. I just wish there was more I could do for him. He claimed he was taking medication of some sort, but didn't go into detail. I do feel a lot more relieved now that we are not talking anymore, as sad as that is to say, because I still really do care about him.

[sabby]

I'm glad you blocked this person kitten. I know it's hard when we care for a person but have to walk away from them for our own sanity/safety.

The thing I try to remember is this, just because I care about an individual does not automatically mean that I must somehow continue any involvement with them if it is not a positive situation for me. I can still care about them, I just do it from a safe distance.

[MiddayNap]

You definitely did the right thing. All you can do, really, is hope he gets the help he needs.

[Yoda]

He may or not have DID or another flavor of mental illness but even if that is so it does not excuse his aggressive behavior.

Yes, you did the right thing by blocking him.

OMG....first off that was scary!

It's real nice of you to wanting to help dear, but staying safe is a bigger help to yourself. I couldn't tell you if he was faking or not, but to have murderous alters wildly suggests that that system has serious issues that you should rightly not get involved with.

Your desire to help speaks volumes about you, but please filter it to stay safe.

[kennyc]

Yep. Take care of yourself first!