Question bout you n yours (if ya wanna answer)

Different post here got me thinkin. So im wonderin if me n mine in the minority here.

We got me, my sis, my lil bro (L.P.), this one lady, a few guys who show up sometimes, this one girl, blah blah blah. Theres a bunch of us in this one group of us. Theres other groups but our group the one doin life the last few years now. But check it. Im thinkin only three of em are adults proper. I aint no adult. Im a slider n the oldest i ever done got was a teenager n im older then four of em who show up n do stuff.

So thats question one. Any of you got systems where it aint adults runnin the show all the time? We the only ones who got kids, teens, and adults who take care of life? I didt think it was all unusual or nothin but maybe it is.

Next, if yall got teens n kids, do they only show up when shtf? Yeah we got times where one of us gets set off cuz of somethin n somebody else pop out or whatever but sometimes one of us come all a sudden cuz maybe they been payin mind to whats happenin on the outs n maybe they just showin up cuz they find whats goin on interesting or even fun. So thats the next question, do yall only have kids n teens show up when stuff goin foul?

~Gwen~

I have kids and teens in charge a lot. T3 says that younger parts get triggered when the adult parts think they can't handle a situation and feel scared. That switching means that I am afraid of an emotion.

So yeah, the littles take over fairly frequently. I am better now at staying co-conscious but I still get in little or teen mode sometimes.

funny you should post this

we were only thinking maybe about 1 or 2 weeks ago how odd it is that alicia has had so much control lately (we don't know why it is, probably never will)

the only teens we have are bethany (shy and scared to come out most of the time), and michelle who sometimes looks after alicia and has a lot to do with past events
michelle just comes out when ever (bad or good), and bethany comes out when natalie is shouting. bethany hates natalie so she braves the outside (about the only time she does)

Our front group (the ones that take care of daily life) has got 4 adults and 3 kids. Two of the kids are out a lot of the time and do a ton of non-work stuff. They play and have fun a lot.
I was reading last night about structural dissociation and they was saying that kid alters often contain the tendency for exploration and play (what other descriptors call a 'sense of agency'). And that is exactly what these front two do.
I think it is more normal than not!

my alters were of different ages ranging (under 5- to teen ages)
some were stuck at their ages and stuck in the reality of when they came into being.
some though they remained the ages in which they came into being had the sense of agency to take care of adult issues due to the traumas and events they had to deal with were of adult nature.
some though their ages not adults their sense of agency was that of an adult.

my alters took control based on what their sense of agency was in relation to the triggers that caused the dissociation (switching into or out of that alter ) in my location this kind of alter is called a dissociative type alter

the reason my location calls this a dissociative type alter is because the switching from one alter to another isnt due to another mental disorder or medications making it happen example the alters are not hallucinations or delusions from having schizophrenia/ bipolar disorder or because the medication is making a person hallucinate.

my alters no matter what their ages took control in every aspect of life depending upon what their sense of agency was...

examples...

if dating was the event the alters that dealt with dating issues took control if needed because thats what their sense of agency was (thats what their jobs, purposes, reasons for being created was, how much control they had and when) example if I was on a date and something during the date caused me to feel numb spaced out and disconnected the alters that dated would take control to continue the date or end the date. if there was something going on during the date that I did not know what to do or the alter in control did not know what to do (trigger) dissociation (switching) happened and the alter who's sense of agency was to handle that situation would take control and take care of that.

words in my location that may be different in other locations...

trigger... in my location means anything good or bad that causes something to happen..

pulling a trigger lever on a gun makes it shoot and loud noise
having trouble driving causes another alter to take control.
bumping ones toe on furniture makes a person cringe
a joke makes someone laugh.

pulling the trigger lever, having trouble driving, bumping ones toe and a joke are all examples of a good or bad trigger.

with my dissociative type alters something happens (trigger) that caused my alters to take control of the body and do whats needed in life.

another term I use frequently in my posts is sense of agency..

since you are a teen ager Im going to try and break this down a bit...here in america (thats where I live) this is a new diagnostic for treatment providers. its a guideline that tells therapists and psychiatrists to look for this happening. if its not happening you cant call that person DID.

sense of agency is just new phrase that means each one in the system (the alters and the one they live inside of) all have their own way of being, their own amount of control that they have, their own jobs with in the system (your word grouping), their own purpose, what they can and cant do, and how they do it and when they do it. there are limitations just like normal people are not perfect, normal people have things they can and cant do, what they are supposed to do and all that stuff.

every one with DID is different because they are not living the same kinds of life but everyone with DID here in america has to have the the same things that the doctors have to look for in the guidelines before the doctors can call them DID.

I think of it like my medical doctor cant say I have a cold if he doesnt see I have cold problems. its like that a doctor for mental disorders cant say a person has a mental disorder if they dont find the things the guidelines say there has to be. sometimes it takes many years for mental doctors to find all the stuff they need to to call someone DID,. sometimes it only takes going through a test one time.

my point yes you are going to be different then others here but you will also find things here that you also have in common with other people here. I may have had a different kind of system then you have had. and you may be different then me, that doesnt make either one of us wrong, just different.

hope this has helped you to understand my posts a bit better.

I relate to a lot of this but can't remember it all. We have more child& teen parts than "adult" parts. I only put adult in parentheses because I'm starting to think that a couple of the adult parts are actually child/teen parts that learned to appear, speak and minimally act like adults do... this is a question I have been pondering lately which I think is relevant to this post... Did any of us/ you feel like we ever really grow up? Or are do all parts/systems true purpose is just to try to cover up the truth that the outside world simply can't grasp?.. That body and some knowledge may grow, age learn; but inside we are all just small terrified children, hiding, desperate not to be exposed. Stuck. Lost.
-J

I want to say a bit more,
SO we got the front group that deal with daily life stuff and we switch easily amongst ourselves, pretty cruisy kind a thing, we all kinda know eachother and work together
but then theres the others, the ones we don't know much about and they come out for bad stuff, in there theres kids and adults and teens and all sorts. so they only how up when tshtf. but the front group, we do normal stuff.

That's generally how we work too Luce. (((HUGS))) It's good to hear that you all are similar...makes us feel less like freaks!

It's even more validating when you consider structural dissociation - it is how the scientists and researchers figured out dissociate disorders work based on evolutionary psychology!!
Out ex T recently sent us a copy of some of the lists of parts we made for her and on one of them we had written us out under the headings of functional parts and reactive parts. We had done this years before structural dissociation was a thing. All the ones under 'functional parts' fit the categories of ANPs (apparently normal parts who do every day activities) and all the 'reactive parts' fit the definitions of EPs. It happened just how those researchers and scientists say it happens!
All the dissociating that we do and you do and others do here is just what normal human beings do under particular circumstances at a certain stage of development. It is just what happens.
Hunny, we are all so norrrrrrrrrrmal.....

Kewls. Thx you guys. We get to wonderin sometimes bout how maybe we weirdos cuz of how we go n do things. Like L.P. hes a kid n all but when he come round he just show up n aint nobody knowin how or why he do he just do n he help n all that so it aint no prob or whatever. He feels better when he can help out so its win win. Me? Lol. I get irate sometimes cuz i show upp n its all oh look nobody shoveled n the sidewalk = deathtrap n here i was thinkin it was summer or maybe fall. or maybe we got sink full of dishes n trashed up house n i hate messes. Like how come i gotta be doin this? How come nobody else can but i know they do just maybe they havin a bad or lazy day or whatever but still it bugs me. Point is all of us show up n do life not just grown ones. Thats our normal. We aint always got them full switch type things goin down neither. Like Veda was always walkiin round n alla sudden she be runnin n skippin n wavin arms in the air n you know thats L.P. n then you knowin he gonna be showin up cuz he close to the surface or whatever. But til there is full switch its like hm well look like two of us up in the head at the same time. Not like constantly but it shows up in wierd ways like runnin round the house arm flailin. Lol. We do that to tho what with those of us in our groups we get to bein real switchy sometimes n it aint no biggie cuz we work good together n got ok co con goin on. Dunno bout them other ones i aint knowin about but if history keep on repeatin itself we only tend to do one group at a time so it aint matterin none anyhow.

~Gwen~

We all are younger then the body except for one old fart that expresses his opinion verbally every now and then. We have mains that deal with everyday life and Others that have jobs to do as needed.

The mains takes turn, like the guys go to work and we fems rule the roost. We take turns going shopping or doing after work things. We have social male Others and the same with the Fems, sexual alters....it seems like for most jobs we have an opposite gender to perform the work...each with their own attitude and personality.

The littles really rarely present, but when it comes to pets, fast food and toys....they are there.

We pop in and out so much...we can't keep track of who is who, so we really don't worry about names....but if you want a name, kewl...get you one.

Haha, yep two in one, we do that too. Two sessions back there was a really depressed one out, she could hardly talk and wasn't moving or feeling the body at all, and a kid one inside was watching and busting to come out and tell t stuff. T was trying to find out a little about the one that was there and said "are you maybe an adult? or a child?" but she couldn't even answer that. So the kid one managed to get control of one arm , and then the other, and then she bust out laughing cause it struck her as funny to only have control of the arms. And t said "Or maybe you are an adult AND a child!"
We told her the next time we saw her that is what happened, they were both there at the same time for a while and she said "I wondered if that was what was happening."
She's a good t, we haven't seen her long but we really like her. But yeah - we have two together at times as well.

(((AC2)))
Love that you all have an old opinionated fart! maybe just the wording is causing the tickling! We also have an "old fart" I personally have never encountered her..but according to the reports She is a mean old crotchety lady. Considers herself a retired cop?...don't know if that is just how she describes her job or if She actually believes she was a cop? She has written that she has to keep an eye out for any "no good delinquents that need to be taught a thing or two!"...I have apparently never made her list. Which I guess make me a good egg