yesterday, I came across a part that I didn't know, who seemed to be grieving for a child.

she said she was a mommy

Possible trigger:

and that her child committed suicide when she was 13

she wrote something about it too, about how now after all these years of caring for olivia (the child's name), she feels lost and has nothing to do

she even has her own email address, using the name proud_mommy55

not really sure how to approach this

we certainly never knew anyone called olivia, child or otherwise, so unsure of how to tell her (the mommy part), that we don't know who she is

[amandalouise]

I dont know where you are but here in the USA we have whats called public records. this is things like deaths' obituaries, births, weddings/ marriages... all this stuff is accessible to the public.

what that means is if you really want to know you can find out if indeed there was a child that committed suicide. that kind of thing doesnt remain secret. theres usually newspaper articles, death certificates, death notices, obituaries, memorial services all public knowledge and notifications.....

when a child dies in the USA there are police investigations to determine if the death was homicide, suicide or natural health related causes...that means you can contact the police and they will tell you if you had a child that died through suicide..

something like this would also be part of family, neighborhood, friends gossip, that means you would have heard stories from the moment of the suicide on through your whole life...

your medical doctor and coroner (some small towns the doctor is also the coroner ) can also tell you whether you have had children and whether they signed a death certificate for a child of yours....

mortuaries would also have records stemming back decades and centuries so you can check with the mortuaries that were in the area/ districts and now because mortuaries usually pass on their records to the clerks office or to which ever company takes over their business.

you can also contact cemeteries and churches they will have records of any funerals. (given that you are not in prison Im going on the assumption that you did not take a dead childs body into the woods and bury them, here in the USA thats a crime of neglect, child abuse and abuse of a corpse)

my point is dont panic, if you and your alters did have a child that died from suicide you can find out when and how, what the childs name was and honor them with a memorial service and have your grieving time.

your treatment provider can help you to track down whether you had this child and whether the child committed suicide or not and what to do next.

thanks for replies, everyone.

helpful

edit: the 1 person that replied

the second post (which I thought was someone else),, was actually 1 of us