[ACrystalGem]

I'm feeling very lonely and alienated/isolated right now. I wish my alters could talk/sign to me, but this only happens during times of distress. I have four alters & a whole lot of silence. Does anyone manage to have conversations with their alters? I would love to be able to communicate with them better, and for them to communicate with each other too.

[The_Dogs]

When things get quiet enough, yes. We know what you mean too, there are times where things get so busy during the day that there are moments we have to stop and just sit together in silence together. Sometimes the most important thing for us isn't always words but just sitting together. It's all the host wants really.

[anais_anais]

I can't get mine to hush up!! Ever.

((Crystal))

[Solnutty]

Yeah, I have conversations with mine. When they don't respond to me or I'm trying to convince one to be more "visible" I just talk to them anyway. I just assume that when I address them they perk up and listen. That seems to actually be the case. Of course, I have to be polite too! Otherwise I don't think theyd ever talk to me. Not like, Hey I'm talking to you! But more like, hello, I'm sort of lonely and looking for someone to talk to me, please...I don't know how you feel about talking to me and maybe you don't want to but I sure would like to chat, etc. I had one that started talking to me two days after my request. Turns out she was totally listening but just wanted to talk on her own terms.
I also have a meeting place in my head. My T taught me this and is super helpful-it's helped me meet some that weren't okay with talking yet. The meeting place is a beautiful house, and everyone has a their own room. I "sit" in the living room sometimes and use the intercom to ask whoever wants to come to a meeting. I just take note of who shows up and where they are, and just get used to being with them like that. Most of them are too shy to talk and they need to get used to me and trust me first. The key with the house meeting is to really observe, rather than try to control or create or force things to make sense. This allows the other parts to participate in projecting what they want to communicate about themselves into the shared space (if that makes sense). I observe the things that come to mind. The house is also a safe place and it has no rules. We could have a pool in the kitchen if we wanted, or live in a castle!
And sometimes no one talks anyway. And sometimes it's too many.

I'm envious....our mind is very much like a romper room. Everyone has a comment... like every inner statement of our physical well being is usually followed by an inane comment like..."I got to pee" or a a little's whiney "I'm hungry" followed by a "Yeah me too" huh? We do have the same body now...right? Like we need all this extra head noise??? Lol

Oh believe me...even when the body is sleeping the Others are going blah blah....especially around 3 a.m.

[Solnutty]

There are nights I go to bed at 4am.

Yep

[L.P.]

I have conversations with others in my system. There is generally an almost nonstop internal chatter going on. It can be overwhelming at times. Some in my system struggle to function through it. Most of us are unnerved when things go silent. I do not find it uncomfortable, but I do find it amusing when I find I am, and have been, meandering about talking to 'myself' out loud. I do this altogether too often.

Amsterdam