Getting ready for major surgery. Just started telling the alters. Bought the most present little one a toy to take to the hospital. Then our angry one said 'no way, no how' today. Not going according to plan! Seems plans r a waste of time. Been seeing T monthly...been at this a long time..he's agreed to see me weekly. He's been thru two other surgeries with us. Wonder what normal people do....😀

Good luck on your surgery...prayers!

Yes...our Others have their own opinions when it comes to life events....their own way of approaching it, attitude, insight, wants, desires....it can really screw up a good thing sometimes. Generally though...we mostly do that which the body needs to survive, regardless of thought. Major surgery is pretty important....but little things like getting braces or a haircut gets lost and forgotten.

I do imagine that singletons probable have less brain activity and can calm themselves while multiples have a whole community that think differently which contributes to a world of chaos. It can get quite noisy in our head.

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what do normal people do? the same thing that you are doing. they try and prepare for it as much as they can, they have questions, intrusive thoughts and cold feet too, they get angry they sometimes cry,....

my point they are no different than those with DID, they also have parts of self that they have to wrestle with, its just that with DID the parts are just a bit more dissociated than others with out DID.

example .....when my non dissociated friend had to go through a surgery she questioned her diagnosis, questioned the need for the surgery, didnt want to go, was angry about having to go, felt like a child, felt like a rebellious teen, and logical adult, at other times felt like a caretaker that needed to make sure everything went off with out a hitch, she took comfort blankets, nightgowns, toiletries, a book, a stuffed animal,...

when I had the same surgery the child part of me, the angry part of me the logical part of me, the caretaker part of me, the rebellious teen in me all came to the surface to handle their parts in this, I took a comfort blanket, my own nightgowns, toiletries, a book, a stuffed animal....

the difference between my non dissociative friend and I....I dissociated (felt numb, spaced out, disconnected.....) where as my friend did not.

my suggestion is just take it one step at a time and follow what ever your doctors are telling you to do for preparing for the surgery. they are in the best positions to advise you on how to handle this, and know that even non dissociative people have the same problems and are unable to prepare for every single problem, all they can do is take it one step at a time and use their grounding, relaxation tools to help with the anxiety and other problems.

good luck on the surgery, hope everything works out for it.