[Kayraymultipleme]

So, I need advice. We were recently diagnosed with DID, and we also have a diagnosis of BPD. Our therapist told us that he has realized that the symptoms of BPD that we exibit are coming from other alters. We have an alter who was the original and she hasnt been out for 25 years. The body is 25. I am the host, and she thinks she is still a kid. She doesnt know she has aged with me. She knows all the knowledge that I know. She is a watcher in the system. She is to unstable to be out in the world. She still believes it is 1993. Is this valid? I am I going crazy??
Ray

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Kayraymultipleme

So, I need advice. We were recently diagnosed with DID, and we also have a diagnosis of BPD. Our therapist told us that he has realized that the symptoms of BPD that we exibit are coming from other alters. We have an alter who was the original and she hasnt been out for 25 years. The body is 25. I am the host, and she thinks she is still a kid. She doesnt know she has aged with me. She knows all the knowledge that I know. She is a watcher in the system. She is to unstable to be out in the world. She still believes it is 1993. Is this valid? I am I going crazy??
Ray

You asked: "am I going crazy??"... sorry only you and your treatment providers can say whether you are going crazy or not or whether your system makes sense, is logical or in your words valid.

here where I am and with my treatment provider we dont use the term valid or crazy with mental disorders. we have a saying here. everyones system is how ever and what ever they needed it to be to survive the extreme trauma's that resulted in someone to dissociation to the extreme where alters were created. in other words it is what it is, you get what you get and you have the hand that was dealt to you...

also here at psych central no one here can say someone is crazy or not valid or any other unsupportive/ discriminating language. we accept everyone for how ever and what ever they post.

that said I can tell you that I am integrated/ one whole person again. before my alters were integrated just about every one of my alters were the kind that did not evolve or age. they were stuck in what ever their sense of agency was. (sense of agency is a new, since 2013, psych term in relation to DID here in the USA. it means what alters can and cant do, how much control they have and other things too, that your therapist can explain the technical side of this and how sense of agency relates to you and your alters)

[Skeezyks]

Hello Ray: I'm sorry I cannot comment with regard to your concern. However I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

Here are links to some articles from PsychCentral's archives that may be of some interest:

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/d...rder/in-depth/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/d...tity-disorder/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...-common-signs/

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/d...der/treatment/

I don't know, of course, if you're here simply seeking advice with regard to this particular concern or if you plan to hang in here with us. However, should you be planning to continue on (we hope you do)... may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!

[Amyjay]

Originally Posted by Kayraymultipleme

So, I need advice. We were recently diagnosed with DID, and we also have a diagnosis of BPD. Our therapist told us that he has realized that the symptoms of BPD that we exibit are coming from other alters. We have an alter who was the original and she hasnt been out for 25 years. The body is 25. I am the host, and she thinks she is still a kid. She doesnt know she has aged with me. She knows all the knowledge that I know. She is a watcher in the system. She is to unstable to be out in the world. She still believes it is 1993. Is this valid? I am I going crazy??
Ray

Well one could argue that DID is a special form of crazy, right?
DID is an illogical disorder in that the self can believe all sorts of things. I mean to think that a person has another person or another self living in their mind is pretty special on its own don't you think? And yet us DID folk insist we really do have others and they really are NOT a part of 'me'. Is that any more illogical than believing it is 1993?
What about an alter who believes they are a male (in a female person) or vice versa? Is that any more illogical than believing it is 1993?
What about an alter that believes they are an animal? (I have a couple of them). Which would you say is more crazy - 1993 or "I'm actually a cat"?
What about an alter that is 5 years old in 72 year old body? Crazy? Not crazy? Not sure?
DID is all about self perception and self identity. It is about avoiding the realization that all that horrible stuff happened to ME. So we become a parade of not-me's. I guess what I am trying to say is that pretty much the only limit of possibilities in establishment of not-me's is the limit if human imagination. Alters are just not logical.

[Kayraymultipleme]

thank you all! I appreciate your support. I am glad to know that there are likeminded people here.
Ray

Your "crazy" comment reminded me of some info my T gave me awhile ago. It has to do to the physical changes that occur in the brain at the time of trauma. Actual, changes in the structural parts of the brain that are visible on medical tests. It's not all 'in your mind'.

[Kayraymultipleme]

Originally Posted by cavaliers

Your "crazy" comment reminded me of some info my T gave me awhile ago. It has to do to the physical changes that occur in the brain at the time of trauma. Actual, changes in the structural parts of the brain that are visible on medical tests. It's not all 'in your mind'.

Wow!:! Didn't know that.