[rise13eyond]

Honestly most of us aren't all that big on small children, only one of us really likes them and even she finds herself at a bit of a loss. Our little one is five, the pickiest eater to ever exist, and as small children do, likes to throw tantrums when he doesn't get his way. I'm not saying he's a spoiled or a brat in any way, but he get's very upset when he can't do what he wants or eat what he wants. I do kinda feel bad for him (well all of us) having to watch things go one, having to always do things you don't want to. He doesn't front the most so he doesn't get to do what he wants very much...So I kinda understand why it is he responds to an unpleasant situation in the only way he knows how. Nonetheless there has got to be a better way to deal with his tantrums and whatnot. So I dunno what does everyone else do?

[mostlylurking]

Is it possible to make an agreement, like that he gets 20 minutes to color or have books read to him each morning, or that he gets to watch a favorite TV show once a day while having a snack he likes? Maybe if it was routine and dependable, it would help him regulate a little bit more easily? That being said, it probably wouldn't be helpful to offer such things unless you could be fairly certain you could deliver on it with very few exceptions. (I'm not multiple but have a very close friend who is, and if we promise that, say, I can do a phone call with one of the littles, it is pretty disastrous if it has to be postponed for some reason. Small children take disappointments very hard!)

Also, I don't know what your inner world is like (if you have one), but are there things that could be created in the inside world to keep him a bit happier? Blankets, a teddy bear, toys, a tree to climb or a swing? Not everyone's inner world can include such things, but if you have space inside for things like that, it might help.

[rise13eyond]

Originally Posted by mostlylurking

Is it possible to make an agreement, like that he gets 20 minutes to color or have books read to him each morning, or that he gets to watch a favorite TV show once a day while having a snack he likes? Maybe if it was routine and dependable, it would help him regulate a little bit more easily? That being said, it probably wouldn't be helpful to offer such things unless you could be fairly certain you could deliver on it with very few exceptions. (I'm not multiple but have a very close friend who is, and if we promise that, say, I can do a phone call with one of the littles, it is pretty disastrous if it has to be postponed for some reason. Small children take disappointments very hard!)

Also, I don't know what your inner world is like (if you have one), but are there things that could be created in the inside world to keep him a bit happier? Blankets, a teddy bear, toys, a tree to climb or a swing? Not everyone's inner world can include such things, but if you have space inside for things like that, it might help.

That is actually...a very good idea. I mean if we can make it work. I can only speak for me right now, I do love schedules....but it's kind of hard to make them when you never know who's going to be out and when...Maybe if we had to follow such a strict schedule then it would be more consistent...I don't know. I kind of wonder if this sort of thing works for other people.

Our headspace is literally our bed room. I mean we have a bedroom but the headspace looks just like it. And it is full of plushies...This is mostly on my part, but our little one is the reason we carry around a tiny plushie when we leave the house.

I don't remember exactly where I was going with the last part so I'll just stop there.

Thank God my littles don’t present...just momentarily when it’s about our dog and fast food at times. When they out, they’ll ramble on till we realize and pull them back in, like grabbing a runaway child in the store. We tend to get the strangest of looks after such incidents, lol.

We are a functioning system (hold a job and pay bills) and we all know that it is a must for survival through struggling for years, so having unauthorized outings that contradict our public image is restricted. Of course we do have our moments....so we have to enact damage control and a cover up.

Our littles babble on like a happy 3 year olds for they are....the pain is all buried...

We let them pet the dog for hours, buy them a hamburger when we buy a chicken sandwich....little things for they are littles and it doesn’t take much. But being littles, they still need to be treated as such and Susie is our best nurturing alter to do so.