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Will I always see myself as a multiple, if I integrate, or could I finally see myself as a singleton?
My identity remains multiple at the moment. |
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For me personally, no I don't see or consider myself multiple at all since integration |
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Is not good guidance to not relate to any singleton no matter what! Unless you just accepting the diagnoses. I would be very concerned for you if all you relate to is multiplicity. Accepting the dx it comes in phases and level as your treatment provider according to you individual situation maybe about 6 months and less than that if you aren't scared to mixed it up. You know with your environment and who you get out with.
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Thank you! I've heard DID get described many ways. One T described it as "multiplicity" because they didn't believe in DID. Another T described it as "ego states," since that was their institution's orientation. Another T described it as "parts" of the self that were "fragmented." Another T described it as "dissociation." Another T described it as a "lack of integration of the self during certain times of development." Other T's assert that DID doesn't exist and/or is extremely rare if it does exist. Still, other T's assert that it is an iatrogenic effect of poor treatment, which involves highly suggestible clients, false memory syndrome, somatoform disorder, a personality disorder, a combination of multiple personality disorders, a factitious disorder, and the list goes on. When the psychiatric community fails to have consensus on what DID is, and what treatments are required, and how it should be assessed, etc., the clients with DID will doubt, will learn from the arguments within the psychiatric community, and will feel disbelieved and perpetually hidden, never having received proper care for a diagnosis that truly exists. This push on being a "singleton" post "integration" was also an issue with some. I tried my hardest, and I still do. I cannot seem to identify as anything other than "multiple." "Singleton" and "multiplicity" are terms that undermine my struggles and my DID, it seems. So, yes, you're right. THANK YOU! |
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I (that is, this alter that is writing now, as opposed to others in this system) come at it from the point of view that DID develops from an unintegrated sense of self due to trauma during the stage of development of the formation of the self-identity. Although I still cannot fathom how I could ever be able to see the abuse that happened to this whole person as something that happened to ME personally, I do believe that one day that will indeed happen. I understand the theory behind the phenomenon of dissociated states of identity and understand that although it does not feel like it in any way shape or form, the abuse and trauma happened to the whole person of which I myself am only one dissociated aspect.
I hold blind faith that I will one day see myself as a singular integrated sense of self with the other dissociated alters of this single individual. |
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@Amyjay alter peraon, thank you for explaining it to us. It is hard to think of the abuse in any other way than what happens to alter persons because maybe that is how our memories stored them. It still feels like the body host person is having a trauma transfusion between us alters and her, and that we all remaining ones are still trying to help her. The body host person is more scared than the rest of us.
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Is integration a trigger? Do I need trigger warnings?
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Thank you! I was so afraid that I triggered you or others with the "I" word. I didn't know what to say. I'm glad that you answered my question. |
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If you see yourself as multiple I think that's perfectly ok.Im not sure where that push is to be a singleton post integration,is that what you personally have experienced? I don't think a person needs to or even should try their hardest to identify with something they feel they're not.If you feel you're not then you're just not and nobody else has the right to tell you to think or feel differently. I reached complete integration and I no longer have the DID diagnosis.I no longer think or feel I am a person with DID or with a dissociative disorder.It was something I could never imagine happening or imagine what it would be like before it happened. What I think and feel about it all now are are based on my own personal experience and my own truth and reality.It's not wrong,it's just what is.And that's the same for everyone, it is what it is and no right or wrong. I have been a member here for quite a few years.I don't really post that much,mainly because I know that although I can share some of my experiences the fact is it's just MY experiences and I don't ever want anyone to think or feel anything I say is how things should be for anyone else or that they are wrong in what they say or experience. So if you identify in that way,that's your own personal experience and it's ok. |
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@Lililb depends on if those are you greatest validation or they will be really busy today with some of the points mentioned in this post. The main thing is don't allow someone to make you so suggestible. I'd state today remains to be covert day if not really so symptomatic is happening isn't anything wrong with a calmer day.
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Not too long ago, went thru a rude awaking...for us. Thought therapy would end with us being a normal, singleton. T said that was a possibility but he had never seen one. (He's well known in the field for many years)He's seen others *integrate* but then a traumatic event causes separation. So he says by definition not true integration.
We spent time with him describing what it's like being him. Decided we have some distinct advantages that perhaps we don't want to give up. Then again co-consciousness is functional but has a downside too. Joked..half heartedly on our part, that therapy should come with the same labeling a prescription does...how to take it, side effects, warnings. Directions to re-read every month when we refill! Perhaps not important *how* we lead a successful, happy life. Just that we do. |
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Thank you guys.
As in one of the last installments of Hunger Games, Mockingjay said about her friend Peta, "He's still playing the game." When trauma is continuous, or when threats of trauma remain, the alters remain for protection. News, neighborhood violence, discrimination, and toxic environments from unrehabilitated/untreated persons ... and more ... are all threats to one's life in one way or another. Although others without dissociation may have the tools for resiliency and courage, our way remains automatically inclined toward survival, DID style. So yes, I still identify as a protective multiple. I am glad other people found integration and the courage within as one single identity. I am trying, but I am accepting of who I am now in the process of healing. |
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For me personally I don't see complete integration as a goal. That may or may not happen as we continue our healing journey, but it is not an explicit goal. It is simply not my focus. My therapy goal is to have all alters knowing and understanding the same personal history. My guess is that varying degrees of integration will come about naturally as we pursue that goal, simply because sharing knowledge and understanding IS a form of integration.
Que sera, sera. |
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