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Default Oct 09, 2020 at 02:16 PM
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a mummy

a daddy

and a grandma and grandpa

a proper family who loves and want to help us

mummy doesn't want to know us

grandma and grandpa are

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and never met daddy but hear he was a bad man
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Default Oct 09, 2020 at 02:47 PM
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It hurts...

Not having a mummy who wants us

or a daddy who is not a bad man.

Grrrrrrrrrrr


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It hurts...

Not having a mummy who wants us

or a daddy who is not a bad man.

Grrrrrrrrrrr

and the worst part is..

we can't have a new one. that's who our family are
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Default Oct 10, 2020 at 08:12 PM
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I hear you. There is so much loss that goes with having grown up with relational and developmental trauma. There is so much that never was, and never will be. It hurts.

I also hate that life continually comes up with new ways to show us how much hurt and loss there was and is.
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Default Oct 11, 2020 at 06:57 AM
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I hear you. There is so much loss that goes with having grown up with relational and developmental trauma. There is so much that never was, and never will be. It hurts.

I also hate that life continually comes up with new ways to show us how much hurt and loss there was and is.


thanks for that post

yeah that's another good point about life always reminding us

I do wish it was diffrent sometimes
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I hear you. There is so much loss that goes with having grown up with relational and developmental trauma. There is so much that never was, and never will be. It hurts.

I also hate that life continually comes up with new ways to show us how much hurt and loss there was and is.
Thanks for this post Amyjay. I agree with this.

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Default Oct 15, 2020 at 06:02 PM
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I'm sorry dear that's rough. Much loves to you dear.

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Long ago, there used to be a lot of people posting in this forum. Petunia and others..

Where the hell did they go? I know the answer to that actually.

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Default Dec 21, 2020 at 02:41 AM
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We have a good dad... it's the other one who only stopped her physical abuse after legal intervention. But even then she clearly has no remorse or guilt about what she did, she's literally said that she doesn't believe she ever did anything wrong.

I don't want to share too much detail because I don't know how to do trigger warning tags but she had to of done something wrong or we wouldn't have this condition.

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Default Dec 21, 2020 at 04:48 AM
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Long ago, there used to be a lot of people posting in this forum. Petunia and others..

Where the hell did they go? I know the answer to that actually.
Where did they all go? I don't know where they went. Was it because they didn't feel safe or heard here?
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We have a good dad... it's the other one who only stopped her physical abuse after legal intervention. But even then she clearly has no remorse or guilt about what she did, she's literally said that she doesn't believe she ever did anything wrong.

I don't want to share too much detail because I don't know how to do trigger warning tags but she had to of done something wrong or we wouldn't have this condition.

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Default Dec 21, 2020 at 04:54 AM
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As a system I wish we had a good family who were kind, supportive, caring, happy, joyful, sharing, loving, sober, calm, gentle, respectful and warm.

There really are some families out there who really are like that you know.
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I was about to post the very same thing

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As a system I wish we had a good family who were kind, supportive, caring, happy, joyful, sharing, loving, sober, calm, gentle, respectful and warm.

There really are some families out there who really are like that you know.
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Um... hi? I forgot we were even registered on this site. It's a good thing the book mark was still in my web browser and the computer remembered my information because I didn't have a clue what the account was. So weird looking through old posts realizing my alters wrote them and I'm just seeing this for the first time.
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Um... hi? I forgot we were even registered on this site. It's a good thing the book mark was still in my web browser and the computer remembered my information because I didn't have a clue what the account was. So weird looking through old posts realizing my alters wrote them and I'm just seeing this for the first time.


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