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Default Dec 15, 2020 at 08:54 AM
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For those who have found a helpful and trauma informed therapist...

How has the therapist helped with ANP's and EP's?

I have had a therapist who appeared at first to be somewhat understanding.

Big mistake. Big mistake allowing any ''EP'' to speak

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Default Dec 15, 2020 at 01:13 PM
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For those who have found a helpful and trauma informed therapist...

How has the therapist helped with ANP's and EP's?

I have had a therapist who appeared at first to be somewhat understanding.

Big mistake. Big mistake allowing any ''EP'' to speak

Sorry to hear that, Fuzzy
I would also like to know about that.

I use the book by Janina Fisher "Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors" (from 2017) to articulate what is going on within me to my therapist. It is a safe way for me to explain it through an already established therapeutic concept. Perhaps it is cowardly of me to shield behind it, but I already had one re-traumatizing experience with my former T, when I mentioned "parts".


I had a good experience by now with my current T, but it has only been eight sessions. The influence and expectations of different parts regarding the outcome of the therapy are getting more complicated, all the while working on EMDR integration of traumatic memories.

I am yet to see how that will go.

Hope that someone will share some good experience.

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Sorry to hear that, Fuzzy
I would also like to know about that.

I use the book by Janina Fisher "Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors" (from 2017) to articulate what is going on within me to my therapist. It is a safe way for me to explain it through an already established therapeutic concept. Perhaps it is cowardly of me to shield behind it, but I already had one re-traumatizing experience with my former T, when I mentioned "parts".


I had a good experience by now with my current T, but it has only been eight sessions. The influence and expectations of different parts regarding the outcome of the therapy are getting more complicated, all the while working on EMDR integration of traumatic memories.

I am yet to see how that will go.

Hope that someone will share some good experience.

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Thak you for sharing, Alatea

I'm sorry you also had a traumatizing experience with a therapist.

My paws are crossed re current T for you!


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Default Dec 18, 2020 at 09:57 PM
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Can I ask what went wrong, Fuzzybear? It's okay if you don't want to say, I will understand.

My T is highly trauma-informed and we trust her approach. She is very understanding of the role of everyone in our system, and respects the protective part that every part plays. She gently guides the daily life parts (the ANPs I suppose you could say) to expand their awareness and understanding of the trauma holders, but also respects that in order to function they need to titrate the information and emotional burden very carefully.
She is also very gentle with the trauma holders (EPs) when they present in therapy (which actually isn't that often - our protectors are very strong and rarely let any of us be vulnerable in therapy, although that is starting to change now). When they do present she does always call on others within the system to support them, rather than her playing the support role herself. I am good with that. We are the only ones who are always with us and are always there to help.
So I'd say she is kind and compassionate with EPs, and supports the ANPs to learn the skills to support the EPs themselfs.
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Can I ask what went wrong, Fuzzybear? It's okay if you don't want to say, I will understand.

My T is highly trauma-informed and we trust her approach. She is very understanding of the role of everyone in our system, and respects the protective part that every part plays. She gently guides the daily life parts (the ANPs I suppose you could say) to expand their awareness and understanding of the trauma holders, but also respects that in order to function they need to titrate the information and emotional burden very carefully.
She is also very gentle with the trauma holders (EPs) when they present in therapy (which actually isn't that often - our protectors are very strong and rarely let any of us be vulnerable in therapy, although that is starting to change now). When they do present she does always call on others within the system to support them, rather than her playing the support role herself. I am good with that. We are the only ones who are always with us and are always there to help.
So I'd say she is kind and compassionate with EPs, and supports the ANPs to learn the skills to support the EPs themselfs.
Thanks for posting this Amyjay.

I received the impression from this therapist that the therapy was (supposed to be) about exploration and healing.

It became something else... he even sided with some of the abusers (with his words and opinions) and became abusive himself.

It felt that he was far from healed himself from his..

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Default Jan 02, 2021 at 07:25 PM
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I have also found Janina Fisher's book very helpful. And, I saw that she is coming out with a new one that may be more of a workbook. With that said, I have trouble distinguishing kindness from meanness. I think because they were so confused when I was a child. I often feel like letting the littles speak up is a mistake. So, I get it. Even trauma-informed and trauma specialist Ts haven't been super helpful. Right now I am working my way thru a book by Deb Dana that has exercises for "safety and connection". I am not very far along, but I like her approach.
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