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stress has built up and made us a walking mess. somehow we're pulling off being somewhat 'normal' - whatever that word means.
we feel isolated from everyone. when it comes right down to it, we can't tell anyone what's happening to us. especially since we barely know ourselves. our need for escape has become another problem to go along with already existing problems. wanting to be anything but sober is causing us to fall apart more so than we have in a while. but what do we do? our therapist might be leaving. we've worked with him for the better part of 6 years. because they're tied together, we don't know what will happen with our pdoc. we may lose both our T and pdoc within the next month. needless to say, the stress is high lately. losing someone close to us recently i (t.) believe is what set us off in the first place. our fiance also had a bit of a breakdown recently, while everything is seeming to looking upwards from here, it weighed on us. triggered some unwanted thoughts. __________________ "Give him his freedom and he'll remember his humanity." |
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I'm so very, very sorry things are going so badly for you. It is just awful when stuff like that happens to a person. I have GAD and panic disorder so even mildly stressful things can push me over the top. I don't know if I could handle what you are struggling with as well as you are. Wish I knew what to say that would help. I sure hope things get better for you and the sooner the better!
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(((safe hugs and safe thoughts)))
I hope you are able to transition well from your current T/pdoc team to a new one. If you can at least keep your pdoc and find a new T, that might help. It's not easy dealing with these life changes. It's hard to be appreciative of the time you have spent with safe ones, like your T and pdoc, when they are leaving for whatever reason. We struggle with the fear of losing people in our life, too. We try to be more proactive these days by communicating, asking questions, asking for help with our transitions and emotions, asking for more support, expressing how much we'd miss them, etc. It's not always easy to do that, especially when so much is going on. But what helped us was writing down what we wanted to say and share before we said and shared those things. Making a special card or writing a special letter for your T and pdoc might also help you find closure. Closure is important in these situations, because you want to be able to leave the relationship on good terms - ones you can have good memories of, even though you'll deal with the pain of missing them. If you've experienced any kind of childhood emotional neglect (CEN), these good-byes are the hardest to deal with. They bring up so many painful emotions. Finding others - like here online as well as in person - will help you through the rough times and validate your feelings. Hopefully your new T will be very kind, patient, and helpful during your transition. Can your current T and/or pdoc recommend a T that is like your current T? |
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I made the transition. Buy I'm considering giving up therapy all together. (T)
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You can maybe take a break from therapy and revisit it later. During that time, you can focus on building your support system in real life, locally while socially distancing, and online with us. You can also evaluate what you would like in therapy, and what kind of therapist you're looking for. When you're ready, you can revisit seeking a therapist again and starting that process over. That's what I did. I've had many "transitions" throughout my life (spanning almost three decades now). Transitions are a part of life. It is sometimes happy and exciting, and it's sometimes sad and depressing. But you will get through it! Hang in there. |
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Therapy can be amazing, but people should understand it can also be extremely destructive. I had therapy for two years, but then it started going down hill really bad. So a month ago I finally ended therapy. That was one of my best decisions. I'm starting to become happy again. Diving into my problems for 50 minutes ever week was triggering me, making me too suicidal. I just needed to FORGET about my problems.
Maybe one day we'll return to therapy. Therapy isn't all what people make it to be. I think even modern therapy has a very very very long way to go, a lot of room for improvement. TBH I think in 50 years from now academics will look back at present therapy models and just shake their heads in disbelief. Anyhow, hope you're doing well! I'm not saying therapy is good or bad for anyone except myself. |
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i suppose the idea of therapy lately just feels overwhelming. but i also just started a job, so perhaps i still need the help until i've become adjusted. i don't really know what to do anymore.
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We are sorry to here that Zelda was also feel sad and down that’s why we stopped therapy but we are in group still it’s Eve speaking our therapist wanted us to integrate us but we can not do that because of our schizophrenia she also just wanted Zelda to do more chores witch is not going to cure us and none of our friends real ones singlets want to talk to us or parents or family but we got each other just keep strong you guys are all real and DID is not rare at all Zelda and us think that
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When I worked about 2 decades ago, I had to quit therapy in order to work. The therapy was making it harder for me to work because all that processing of trauma made it harder for me to concentrate, and my emotions were all over the place. It's not like I could keep down a job for very long anyway, so I had to pay the bills before I needed therapy again with another crisis. It was hard to find a way to be in therapy and work - even when I tried scheduling appointments on Friday nights only. Ideally, I tried Friday nights so that I could have the weekend to recover, but then I'd wind up feeling depressed on Monday when I returned to work because I was never truly able to feel like I had weekends anymore. It sucked.
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thank you fuzzy
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