cheating

I have found out that my bf has been cheating the whole time we have been dating with his ex. He has told me he loves me and has proposed. The ex has written several letters to him telling him how she loves him and how she cant believe that he is marrying me. The letters tell different dates and specifies when they were together. I think she did that so that I would find about her. He told me he was confused and now he has made his choice to be with me. I am scared that he will cheat when we get married, since he did a lot. It has only been 3 months that he has not seen her. Should I be concerned?

yes, I would delay the marriage to see how he will behave at the very least. It would be tempting to just dump him for being a clod but you probably have feelings for him.

Like Yoda says, I would NOT get married in the near future. He doesn't seem to know his own mind. I would certainly wait until I was more sure about him before marrying. It's easier to break it off when you're just going together than it is when you're married!

He has to EARN your trust back -- don't give it to him without some work on his part. Best of luck. Hugs, Lee

Some men and women feel, myself included, that until you are married you can see other people because there is no legal/spiritual commitment there. That's one of the reasons you get married, to only be with each other. He was probably deciding who he really wanted to marry, and he chose you. But make sure he agrees to leave all past loves behind before you make that commitment.

I would definitely give it quite a long time before getting married if at all.....but first, I would have to completely trust him through his actions not just by what he says....too often the other person lies in order to manipulate the other person's actions.

No blind trust nor love....it doesn't work in a real good relationship...only leaves too many doors open for trouble

I agree with what the others have said, You need to completely trust him before you consider getting married to this guy.x

I would wait. My ex bf of 4 yrs did that to me. He was good for a while, but of course when we started arguing a bit he took off and slept with her. Then tried to come back!

Trust in a relationship is key. The fact that he did that, he violated your trust. He may love you with all his heart but what about you? I would hold off on marrige for now and kind of take the wait it out and see approach. If u 2 are meant to be it will happen right?

Oh n maybe couples counseling? Dont know if either of u are open to that. Me n my ex did that (only for 1 month tho) but it helped (in that short month, lol$

I say dump him.

i would not get married. the trust is not there u will never b fully happy. if u have concerns and doubts then u shouldnt do it. he needs to get himself together and figure out what he wants.

if you really want it to work i suggest couples counseling to sort ur issues out. and that ur on the same page.

hope for the best!