[LightningMan]

I tried to work out an amicable split with the wife, but she is still so angry with me that things went off the rails and I hired a divorce lawyer. She chose to use that as a reason to get even angrier with me and withhold visitation from my granddaughter and other pettiness such as that. It's been a stressful ordeal.

The problem from my standpoint is that she's so angry she cannot hear anything logically. Given that I do not have a time machine and cannot change the seven million things I did (or did not) do that angered her, what can I do to possibly help her past her anger.

Writing that, I realize the answer is probably not much, but I thought I would ask.

[Leed]

You're right -- there's not much you can do to help her get past the anger. Only SHE can work on that. When she gets miserable enough, she'll have to make the conscious decision to dump the anger, and start to live again. But in the meantime, just try to be as amicable as you can. Sure it will be hard when she's shooting darts at you, but do the best you can. Try not to be revengeful, even tho it might feel good. LOL

She'll come around one day. But make sure there is something in the divorce settlement that states in no UNCERTAIN TERMS that you are to be able to see your grandchild as often as you WANT!!! Don't let her take that away from you!

Best of luck and God bless. I wish you well. Hugs, Lee