[coondog96]

i can't beleive after 17 years he never care about us or tired to help us

[healingme4me]

What's your next step, with this revelation?

[eskielover]

Sometimes the other person just knows when it's over for them....know it hurts at times.....but I got to that point in my marriage after 33 years......H commented that he thought I would continue tolerating him for the rest of our lives when I left......I personally had enough & there was nothing he could have done at that point to change how I felt.....the changes he needed to deal with were for himself & his future....not his future with me.

Don't know what your marriage was like or who did what to whome.....so it's not something I can comment on in your situation.....what I am expressing is just about what I went through & the experience I had.

Honestly I can't believe that my H never listened or heard what my issues were or took them to heart long before it ever got to the point I left....but that's how he always was.....stuck his head in the sand like an ostrich & wouldn't see what was going on around him & then wondered why people would kick him in the rear when he wasn't looking.

Some guys just don't get it....other's don't want to.....mostly just so wrapped up in themselves.....but there are other reasons & issues also....relationships aren't easy to figure out especially when there is NO communication