[Sandy.a]

Hello,

I am getting married in a few weeks and my fiancé is divorced with two children. His ex has two other children with someone else. She calls him a few times if she needs a favor, for example when she was pregnant her present bf could not drive her so she called my fiancé, he asked me and I said why can't her bf drive her, I got upset, after all this her bf ended up driving her. Recently, there son needed to go to the hospital so of course she calledu fiancé for a ride and he went.

I am scared that this is what I have to deal with the rest of our lives together. She calls because she knows he won't say no, he said he's not looking at who it is rather helping someone.

Does anyone have any suggestions/opinions on how to deal.

Originally Posted by Sandy.a

Hello,

I am getting married in a few weeks and my fiancé is divorced with two children. His ex has two other children with someone else. She calls him a few times if she needs a favor, for example when she was pregnant her present bf could not drive her so she called my fiancé, he asked me and I said why can't her bf drive her, I got upset, after all this her bf ended up driving her. Recently, there son needed to go to the hospital so of course she calledu fiancé for a ride and he went.

I am scared that this is what I have to deal with the rest of our lives together. She calls because she knows he won't say no, he said he's not looking at who it is rather helping someone.

Does anyone have any suggestions/opinions on how to deal.

well with the exception of taking their son to the hospital (he was a little more obligated to that, but not to her, his son) I think he's going out of his way too much for someone he's supposed to cut off ties with.

You have to make clear boundaries here and do it in a diplomatic manner but let him know his obligation to her is misguided and he needs to have you as his priority now, not her and her needs.

[gloamingone]

I had this problem with my boyfriend when we first started dating. I finally had a heart to heart with him. Told him I felt like I was competing for his attention and time. Luckily he shaped up very quickly and stopped paying her health insurance and phone bill. Now they have almost zero contact.

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