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Feb 17, 2014, 10:36 AM
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My wife and I are reconciling after 18months separated.
There are lots of reasons for both of us to do this...in short, we are willing to set aside our past and agree to draw a line in the sand and move forward. It's not magical and it's not all butterflies and glitter....it's hard work and requires lots and LOTS of communication! We are talking, no longer yelling or shouting; we are listening to each other; we are holding each other and touching each other again; we agree that nothing is perfect, and we dont have to be perfect but we do have to have each others best interest at heart. I am the one who hurt her...I am the one who caused all the problems and all the pain and all the suffering. She believes that she has been called to set aside her "right" to hold all those things against me and instead forgive me and work with me to build a new marriage and a new life. I take responsiblity for my actions....and while I cannot take things back or wave my wand and make it all disappear....I DO agree to be transparent and open and honest and not hold anything back ever again. We CHOOSE to put our marriage back together...both of us...and we both have things to let go of...both have to set our own selves aside and do what is best for the other and our family. So far...it's working out fantastically! We have had a few bumps, a couple times where we both thought "screw it, this is too hard" but we took deep breaths and apologized for losing it on one another....and talked thru it all. IT CAN BE DONE WHEN YOU BOTH WANT IT TO WORK!!! Thanks for reading...just wanted to share. |
 hurting__, Mike_J, SeekerOfLife, waiting4
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#2
Feb 17, 2014, 03:15 PM
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Good for you! This is nice to read...
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Feb 17, 2014, 06:01 PM
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God bless you both.
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#4
Mar 29, 2014, 09:42 PM
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Thank you for that, I really needed some assuring right now, I'm so happy for you both and I hope that it works out!
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Apr 26, 2014, 08:14 PM
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it's good to hear that after all that time it is possible to rekindle the flame.going thru this right now so I appreciate this post very much.gives me hope
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Apr 28, 2014, 11:39 AM
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Good luck..... and you make a great point about it needing both people to want it to work and to put effort into it.
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“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.” Gandhi |
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Apr 29, 2014, 07:34 PM
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this is a more unusual & pleasant outcome! thx for posting & leeting us know of this possibilty. continued good wishes to you both :0)
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