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Aug 05, 2014, 10:00 PM
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I came to the USA from New Zealand to join my Wife here who was born in this country. Fast forward 7 yrs. We have two children and things have gone to hell with our marriage. I have not made any friends since I arrived here apart from her family. I feel like our current situation is toxic for our children. We have been seperated but living in the same house. I think it is time for me to leave. Im not sure what to do.
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Aug 06, 2014, 11:07 AM
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If you think it is harming your children then maybe you should find yourself a little place for yourself. Children can be quite impressionable.
Good luck 
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Aug 08, 2014, 11:05 AM
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I stayed in the same house with my ex during our divorce, it was not a good situation for anyone especially our daughter.
I know that I have found making friends easier after getting my own place and the relationship with my daughter has improved a lot. But that is just my experience.
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Aug 12, 2014, 03:14 PM
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I went so far as to allow visitations in my own home. My T mentioned that it confuses children and gives them false hope of reconciliation, when reconciliation isn't going to happen.
It can make for a difficult time, moving forward with your own love life. There's many drawbacks. It's eventually an illusion. Many have done everything trying to give just one home to kids v. Two. All shaped by the major waves of divorces in the eighties. It's understandable, yet, it's not such a good set up. Plus teaches dependency, in its own way. My scenario resulted in an assault after a heated couple weeks after my ex discovered texts on my phone from a love interest. .. Divorcees need privacy. Even being friendly sort of, there's an underlying discomfort. |
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Aug 19, 2014, 01:09 AM
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Kids always get hurt the worst in bad marriages so do whatever is best for your kids - please!
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