[Bradley90]

Hello everyone. First time on the site I was happy to find it. My wife of 4 years initiated a separation a month and a half ago. She said she felt like she was walking on egg shells and didn't feel like she had a voice In the marriage. She felt as if she couldn't express her self or give any opinion. She said that she didn't know who she was anymore. We have gone to both individual and couples counselling. I am currently taking an anger management course. I feel absolutely terrible for treating her so badly. I honestly didn't know things were so bad. I take full ownership of my bad behaviour. I live with so much regret for the way I treated my wife. I feel that during this time apart I have learned a lot about my self. My wife says that she has as well. Her feelings have gone form hurt to anger. She is now angry at me herself and the world. I'm struggling with not being able to see each other or speak regularly . I'm not sure what to do. We both have acknowledged that we want out marriage to work and there is hope. Even though some days it's harder than others to see. I'm scared that we will start to grow farther apart during this time separated. I told her I loved her this morning via text. She did not reciprocate. I'm feeling pretty low at the moment.

[kaliope]

hi Bradley
I am sorry that you are having to struggle. separation is not easy. you may or may not stay together. it will take a lot of work. what you have to focus on is you and how to change your behaviors. it will either benefit this relationship or help you in the future. the focus now, should be on healing yourself. take care
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Originally Posted by Bradley90

I'm scared that we will start to grow farther apart during this time separated. I told her I loved her this morning via text. She did not reciprocate. I'm feeling pretty low at the moment.

Listen closely " It's over " so don't send her love texts etc, Stalk her etc Respect her decision and don't be a bad ender . Expect her to have a new man soon and move on.