Divorcing my wife

I am divorcing my wife soon. Her evil, her denial, has crushed me. Ive been married 5 years and still love her with all my heart. She stopped taking her meds and refuses to see her psych. I Baker Acted her two years for a suicide attempt (which she denies). At that time, at the hospital, they classified her BPD. At the time, she had lost her 4th job, sitting home no independence, going literally crazy. Talking about CIA stuff, lost too much weight, nad sever mania. After the hospital, she was good for about 18 months, until 6 months, "it" broke. She has kept her job (somehow), but her vile evil and lack of love in this marriage is burying me. I would do anything to help her if she would accept it. Her mother and father line 1200 miles away and are truly useless and pathetic in every facet. Sadly, with the biggest hole in my heart I called a divorce lawyer. Im terrified of living without her even though Ive been in a hotel the last 5 days. I cant picture my life without her-but I must.

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I'm sorry you are having to come to such a difficult decision. This must make you feel extremely sad. It is true, however, that ultimately each one of us must take responsibility for ourselves. And, if we will not, others cannot help us. You must take care of yourself too. I wish you deep peace...

Broken Husband, welcome to PC. I think we have a lot in common. I am divorcing my spouse. I got the letter in the mail today that it is next thurs the 11th the court hearing. I decided not to attend. I cannot go. They left in crisis and flipped out PTSD. They also have total five MI's and worked for CIA. The stuff is off the wall. All i can say is that i have been through the wringer physically, emotionally and financially. There is no way emotionally i can attend my own court hearing. There is nothing to go after just their things which they did not get by July 15, 2015 so they forfeited the right to have them. They said in court before then they didn't want anything, i could have it all, wanted nothing from me. Don't you love it? It seems the more you try to help a loved one with MI and they burn you. You will reach the point to just let them go, they are beyond your reach of helping them. You come to a place to say that sometimes love is not enough they need professional expertise that you don't have to give to them. That is what i have had to do. Hopefully that will help you to get to the same place and quit beating yourself up and start taking care of yourself. That is being kind to yourself and you have to to move forward. tc

Divorce is a very painful process to go through. But, sadly, sometimes it is the right thing to do. I wish I had some wise words to make you feel better, but all I can say is you will heal in time.