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Do parental alienation go both ways? From mom or dad?
If I am not an expert in this area, should I even bud in to help, even if they are family members? P.S. A family member has been trying to "educate" me on the subject of parental alienation by sending me articles so I guess that means she wants help. Last edited by Anonymous43949; Jan 12, 2019 at 12:25 AM.. Reason: add P.S., clarity |
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Yes, of course it can be either parent trying to alienate the child(ren) from the other. Whether it be by bashing to the children the other parent, manipulating the child's thought process and perception of the other parent or by physically withholding visitation without a legal ok by the justice system. And I'm sure that I've left things out.
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I think it works either way and its really a sh*tty thing.
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It really is. I don't have any legal right over their child (even though he is related to me) so it's frustrating to see all that is happening, knowing there is nothing I can do about it within my human power. I suppose this is where the serenity prayer comes in: "Help me to accept the things I cannot change."
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I believe it can come from either parent, ennie. It's terrible when it happens. I'm so sorry your relative is going through this. I agree with all the others. Try to talk to her about this and see how it goes from there. Ask her if she needs any help. I think you have every right to step in, after all it is a relative of yours and the child is related to you as well. I hope things will get better soon. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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If you are on good terms with the person who is attempting the parental alienation, and someone else on the other side has warned you that they are aware of this person's efforts (cuz i cant figure out what the situation is by your description), then i would warn the parental person that parental alienation is indeed something they could be punished for. The judges dont like it. Im not sure what kind of crime it is, or if in all states, but it is becoming an issue.
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Following your advice, I am thinking of saying something to her along the lines of: "If you continue to engage in parental alienation, that could hurt you. I don't want you to do things that could backfire on you and you will regret later." Last edited by Anonymous43949; Feb 07, 2019 at 12:48 AM.. Reason: grammar |
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Children fare better when they are afforded the opportunity to grow to formulate their own opinions about their parents.
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