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I have a couple things at my ex boyfriends house..he said he would drop off but there’s NO WAY I want to see him. He said some very cruel things to me, and seeing him would just rub salt in the wound.
It’s not something I need right now...perhaps after some time has elapsed and I’m healed, I can get my things. What do you think? |
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Break ups are hard. Having our belongings returned or retrieving them is one of the niggling things that can either expediate or prolong..... or even prevent closure. I think if it were me, I would contact the ex and arrange a specific time for him to drop off or for you to retrieve your belongings. Should you feel uncomfortable seeing your ex again, its probably wise to have a friend with you to mediate the exchange. Allowing too much time to go by will only make it harder...and I fear if you wait too long you may never get your belongings back.
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I never did get my favorite dark gray shorts back after my last breakup. I still had the similar pair of light grey shorts, but they werent the SAME, even tho they were identical except for the color! Every time i wore the pair i still had, i was reminded of the pair i no longer had. And i wear things like that until they are not even good for the rag bin.
We are talking over twenty years ago now. The shorts wouldnt fit me now. I GUESS im over it! |
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Sorry you are dealing with a break up. I had the opposite, an ex wanted some things of his that I had. It was a bad break-up as well, very nasty in the end, so I didn't want to see him. I ended up sending them to him via a mutual friend.
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Ok, I’ve had many strange relationships and here’s a story of yet another one.
A guy I broke up with demanded I give him back a tube of lip gloss he gave me that he already had left over from his beauty salon from before we met. He demanded back a tube of lip gloss!!! I left it for him to pick up at my store and I wasn’t there. If your things aren’t worth much money or sentimentally, and you don’t want your final contact with him to be like that, blow it off. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Gymgirl71!
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I posted on your other thread. Can you ask someone to get your stuff? Or tell him to drop it off by your house/apartment when you are not home? No need to see him. And is it stuff of value? If not, let it go. Not worth it.
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I don’t think it’s in my best interest to see him. Why? Si he can get a rise out of seeing how torn up I am? The best revenge (don’t like that word but it’s appropriate now) is to move on like you could care less....no need to feed his oversized ego.
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