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I have a couple things at my ex boyfriends house..he said he would drop off but there’s NO WAY I want to see him. He said some very cruel things to me, and seeing him would just rub salt in the wound.
It’s not something I need right now...perhaps after some time has elapsed and I’m healed, I can get my things. What do you think? |
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Break ups are hard. Having our belongings returned or retrieving them is one of the niggling things that can either expediate or prolong..... or even prevent closure. I think if it were me, I would contact the ex and arrange a specific time for him to drop off or for you to retrieve your belongings. Should you feel uncomfortable seeing your ex again, its probably wise to have a friend with you to mediate the exchange. Allowing too much time to go by will only make it harder...and I fear if you wait too long you may never get your belongings back.
__________________ The devil whispered in my ear, "You cannot withstand the storm." I whispered back, "I am the storm." Last edited by Quarter life; Apr 16, 2019 at 03:47 PM.. |
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Sorry you are dealing with a break up. I had the opposite, an ex wanted some things of his that I had. It was a bad break-up as well, very nasty in the end, so I didn't want to see him. I ended up sending them to him via a mutual friend.
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I never did get my favorite dark gray shorts back after my last breakup. I still had the similar pair of light grey shorts, but they werent the SAME, even tho they were identical except for the color! Every time i wore the pair i still had, i was reminded of the pair i no longer had. And i wear things like that until they are not even good for the rag bin.
We are talking over twenty years ago now. The shorts wouldnt fit me now. I GUESS im over it! |
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Ok, I’ve had many strange relationships and here’s a story of yet another one.
A guy I broke up with demanded I give him back a tube of lip gloss he gave me that he already had left over from his beauty salon from before we met. He demanded back a tube of lip gloss!!! I left it for him to pick up at my store and I wasn’t there. If your things aren’t worth much money or sentimentally, and you don’t want your final contact with him to be like that, blow it off. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Gymgirl71! I completely agree with what Quarter life and rechu! I'd suggest to you to listen to them as much as you can if you want to! They always give such KIND, GREAT, WISE, WONDERFUL ADVICE to EVERYONE, like in THIS CASE! I completely agree with them about talking to a friend about this and see how it goes from there! Maybe that could help! You could ask them to try to help you to get the things that you've left at his house or get them for you if they can! I'm sure they'll be glad to help you and that they'll understand your situation! If they can't do that, perhaps you could just ask him to just give to you a specific time and place to give to you the things you need to get back! Please NEVER give up HOPE! Try to HANG ON as much as you POSSIBLY CAN! I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, Gymgirl71!
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I posted on your other thread. Can you ask someone to get your stuff? Or tell him to drop it off by your house/apartment when you are not home? No need to see him. And is it stuff of value? If not, let it go. Not worth it.
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I don’t think it’s in my best interest to see him. Why? Si he can get a rise out of seeing how torn up I am? The best revenge (don’t like that word but it’s appropriate now) is to move on like you could care less....no need to feed his oversized ego.
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