FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Member
Member Since Jul 2019
Location: Georgia
Posts: 178
4 14 hugs
given |
#1
My husband of two years emailed me on Father's Day and asked me for a divorce in the email and also told me that I would here from either him or his divorce lawyer and I should just sign the divorce papers so we can go our separate ways. I'm in shock because the only reason that he's even in America is because he married me. I'm an American born citizen. I was the one that spent a year patiently waiting for all the paperwork to be looked over by USCIS. I sponsored him and he came to America in February of 2018. He seemed nice like he was after our wedding but slowly he started changing. He wanted my parents to buy him a car, give him a credit card, and give him and his family the rights to the property in India that my parents have. He was so disrespectful to them and he would yell at them on the phone and he would call my parents by their names instead of calling them by the respectful terms for mother-in-law and father-in-law. I was a perfect wife and always respected my in-law's and my husband. On my last visit to India which was also my first visit to India after our wedding in 2016, he ended up kicking me and he denied that he kicked me but he ended up taking me to my cousins house and showing them how he kicked me. I always tried to make my marriage work and went to two different marriage therapists. He never tried to work our marriage out. He was influenced by his friends because it seems that one of his friends divorced his wife just now and he keeps saying that I was easily influenced by others. I finally got the papers two weeks ago on Thursday when I checked the mail. Boy was I shocked by what I read. He said that we mutually decided to separate on January 30; he seems to have decided already on January 30, 2019 that we were separating but he never told me that and he acted like we were going to be happy together and visit each other and I was shocked that he would put my car into the paperwork because he had no rights to the car at all. He just drove it maybe a couple times without me. IÂ’m so hurt by everything because I still have all the engagement and wedding photo albums at my house. I still have the engagement ring and wedding band. I took them off the day I got the email because it just hurt me wearing the rings and the necklace and toe rings that he gave me the day we were married which happened to be my birthday. My birthday and wedding day is Christmas Eve. For 28 years it was my birthday and then on my 29th birthday it was my wedding day. I really donÂ’t know how IÂ’m going to survive my birthday this year. Another thing that happened is on June 29, my momÂ’s best friend who is my second mom passed away suddenly and weÂ’re grieving her loss but a lot of my friends in the community donÂ’t know that IÂ’m also grieving the loss of my marriage.
|
Reply With Quote |
Bill3, MickeyCheeky, Raindropvampire, unaluna
|
MickeyCheeky
|
Legendary
Member Since Jun 2016
Location: Italy
Posts: 11,817
(SuperPoster!)
7 38.4k hugs
given |
#2
I'm so sorry for your loss, @SouthernDesiGirl Take your time to heal. It seems like this guys just used you to get what he wanted. I am SO SORRY that you're going through ALL of THIS. I'd suggest to get a lawyer to get help with the divorce. He certainly does NOT have any right to take your car and the fact that he even hit you is absolutely AWFUL! Definitely dump him as you deserve much better. Don't let him step over you and make your voice heard. I hope your situation will get solved soon. You don't have kids, am I right? That should make the situation easier. I am SO SORRY for what you're going through. Please dump him as soon as you can. It will take time to grieve your loss and your marriage. You deserve MUCH, MUCH better than him and someone who will treat you with LOVE and RESPECT. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your family, SouthernDesiGirl!
|
Reply With Quote |
SouthernDesiGirl
|
SouthernDesiGirl
|
Member
Member Since Jul 2019
Location: Georgia
Posts: 178
4 14 hugs
given |
#3
MickeyCheeky,
Thanks for the warm hugs. You are right in that we didn’t have kids yet. He wasn’t ready to have kids yet. I do think he used me. I do have a lawyer and we’re going to his office today to look through the paperwork that my lawyer will be sending him. Thanks for your concern and condolences. |
Reply With Quote |
Reply |
|