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Default Dec 11, 2020 at 04:30 PM
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I am recently separated. Three weeks ago, my wife of 32 years (I am 62, she is 68) moved out without any mention of it to me whatsoever. I came home from work only to find that she had hired movers to remove all of her belongings to an unknown address somewhere in the area. She said that in September, when I decided that I would retire in January 2021, she decided that she wanted to live her life out elsewhere.

To make matters worse, we moved to our area eight years ago and I have spent the past eight years commuting 70 miles each way to a company I owned a part of, and have quite literally NO friends (I never mixed work with friendships) anywhere.

My entire life has always been focused on her and our son, who is now 27 years old and has a life of his own (which I still have a very hard time dealing with). I am now finishing out my working career from home (just mentoring my replacement as needed), so it’s just me alone, 24/7.

I need some encouragement; I'll be 63 in a month, and it's hard to imagine starting a new life.
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Default Dec 11, 2020 at 09:33 PM
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Dear just lost,

Oh, how heartbreaking. I can't even imagine all the emotions you must be suffering because of what happened. I wish I knew what to say to help ease the pain of it all. I hope that somehow you can make some friends and find some things that give your life meaning, direction and fulfilment. That is so easy to say when I am not in your shoes. Hopefully others here will have words that give you more encouragement, consolation, understanding and comfort than my poor words. So very, very sorry that I don't know how to be helpful to you!

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Default Dec 11, 2020 at 09:38 PM
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Hi!
I am so sorry you are dealing with this situation and that you were caught off guard and unprepared.

Its only natural to feel buried under the weight of uncertainty when life has thrown such an abrupt curve ball at you.

Hope you figure things out!
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Default Dec 13, 2020 at 12:33 PM
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Default Jan 02, 2021 at 01:59 AM
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Hi just lost.
I wanted to ask how have you been doing?
I know it is still really early in your divorce/separation. Wanted to make sure your hanging in there.
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