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Default Feb 16, 2021 at 10:11 PM
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My husband asked for a divorce, but we haven't filed yet. He's already talking to another woman and doesn't understand why it bothers me. Is it wrong of me to be upset when I'm not the one even wanting the divorce? Quite honestly, I'm devastated.
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Default Feb 16, 2021 at 10:47 PM
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I am so sorry! I would be devastated too. Do you have children?
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Default Feb 16, 2021 at 11:08 PM
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You feel what you feel; no need ask permission to express your emotions. I'd feel pretty horrible if I were in your shoes, too. It doesn't sound like your husband is too swift in the sensitivity department, though. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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Default Feb 17, 2021 at 07:29 AM
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I am SO sorry. ALL of your feelings are valid and should be honored.
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Default Feb 17, 2021 at 08:36 AM
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So Sorry this is happening! i completely agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters about you being entitled to your own feeling! i Hope and Pray that things will improve REALLY soon! Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @MsBroken, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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Default Feb 24, 2021 at 01:42 AM
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My husband asked for a divorce, but we haven't filed yet. He's already talking to another woman and doesn't understand why it bothers me. Is it wrong of me to be upset when I'm not the one even wanting the divorce? Quite honestly, I'm devastated.
You are allowed to feel however you feel. I found out after my wife had a year and a half affair. I have everything to her and our marriage and family and gladly said no and avoided all offers of the cheating kind. 23 years as my best friend and only woman I have loved. If it weren’t for my kids I’d feel it was a complete waste! You feel anything you want, but my advice is try to avoid hate, because I have gone there to a small extent and it’s toxic and sucks to feel. I hope you find healing and some comfort. I’m only 42 and I don’t believe at this stage I’ll ever be open to love again. It sucks...
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Default Feb 24, 2021 at 09:14 AM
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Personally, I find that women who are willing to break up someone's marriage are women who have no respect and ONLY think of themselves. He isn't getting any "prize" and time will show him how selfish this other woman can be. This is all about "ego", has nothing to do with YOUR value.
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