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Default Mar 20, 2021 at 07:14 PM
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Feel free to message me; long story short:

My wife and I met on "fling" terms but she got pregnant on our first date. I never loved nor wanted to marry her. She was emotionally abusive and low key crazy. I did not trust her not to get back with her abusive ex and become an alcoholic like she used to be. I felt like my only option for my kid(s) was to marry her. I'm military, and she's a woman (obviously), so both of those are in her favor. It's been 3 years now, I have orders overseas, not sure if I want to live with her another 4+ years, but again she's a civilian/woman, and I'll be overseas... I'll update this post more in a bit.
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Default Mar 20, 2021 at 08:55 PM
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I don’t know what you should do but as a kid of a loveless marriage I often wished my parents would have gotten divorced.

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Default Mar 21, 2021 at 06:05 AM
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Is there some reason now to stay married?
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Default Mar 21, 2021 at 03:13 PM
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We can't tell you what to do, especially not without knowing your situation in detail. i'd like to suggest though to carefully think about what you want to do as this is no small decision. i'd suggest to talk about this with your Wife as well if it is possible. Please do not rush this. Decide carefully. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Whataremyoptions, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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