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Location: FL
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Mar 27, 2021 at 11:24 AM
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Hi everyone.
I am currently going through a divorce. My wife and I were only married for two years but she is divorcing me due to my ED. I tried to get her to go to marriage counselling but she refused. She stopped speaking to me, sleeping in a different room and then told me she wanted a divorce. I suggested other methods of love making that my analyst recommended but she wasn't intetested in that. She moved out and I kept hoping she would change her mind but I now have the divorce papers. I haven't had the heart to sign them yet because I still love her. This is one of the hardest things I have ever been through. |
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Mar 30, 2021 at 02:38 PM
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Sorry I bothered everyone.
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Mar 30, 2021 at 04:24 PM
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You are not a bother. It can take time to get a response. I am sorry you are going through this. Have you seen a doctor about the ED challenge?
Not all women have to have a man that is sexually active. There are women that are not all that into it themselves for different reasons. |
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Mar 30, 2021 at 11:31 PM
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Thanks. A doctor said it was low T combined with high stress ( due to money issues) and age. My analyst said it was part of my avoidant personality disorder and severe performance anxiety. I'm thinking it could be that I miss the more erotic sex life I had when I was younger. My wife is very conservative. I don't know which is the real reason. I am working on it, but my wife didn't want to wait.
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Mar 31, 2021 at 04:58 AM
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You are not a bother, not to me at least. i agree with the wise and wonderful Open Eyes about seeing a doctor. From what you wrote it does seem like you're trying but your Wife still doesn't seem convinced. i am not sure if there is much else you can do unfortunately. Try to insist with Marriage Counseling if possible. Please do not blame yourself. From what you wrote, it does seem like something you don't have a lot of control over except perhaps some individual therapy. Some Marriages can have issues due to sexual things like this at least i think so. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Falstaff, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
    
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Mar 31, 2021 at 10:55 AM
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Thank you.
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Mar 31, 2021 at 07:36 PM
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It sounds like your wife has made her choice. We can love someone and yet find out the relationship simply doesn’t work. If a partner is not interested in finding ways to make it work there isn’t much you can do.
It takes time to accept a relationship break. Do you have a therapist that can help you as you work through this challenge? |
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Apr 02, 2021 at 01:03 PM
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Yes, I do. It's helpful but this is going to take a long time.
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Apr 02, 2021 at 02:18 PM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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