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Default Mar 29, 2021 at 09:35 AM
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Long story short, we are common law with a 2 year old and I am at the end of my rope. I have anxiety and can no longer deal with the emotional manipulation so I ended things. I’ve tried this many times before but he refuses to leave.

How do I make my partner leave the house so we can begin just co-parenting and I can breathe again?
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Default Mar 29, 2021 at 12:31 PM
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Hi @WantToBeSingle - welcome to MSF My Support Forums. I am sorry your relationship is not working well for you. One thing to do is get a therapist to help you navigate this with less emotional stress.

One reason partner may not want to leave is they feel like they will be shut out of partnering children. Having some kind of legal agreement might help. A lawyer may be able to tell you your options better than anyone here.

You may find this article of interest but I cannot vouch for its advice. Forcing is the least attractive alternative. Stressing the benefits may help if the partner is able to support themselves and pay child support. Five Ways to Get a Spouse Out of the House (April 2002) | Charleston, SC | Gregory S. Forman, P.C.

Remember this person will be copartnering for 16 years so keeping good relations can make that easier.

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Default Apr 02, 2021 at 02:40 PM
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Whose house is it? If it’s yours, you will probably need a court order to evict him
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Long story short, we are common law with a 2 year old and I am at the end of my rope. I have anxiety and can no longer deal with the emotional manipulation so I ended things. I’ve tried this many times before but he refuses to leave.

How do I make my partner leave the house so we can begin just co-parenting and I can breathe again?
Who owns the house or is on the lease?

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Who owns the house or is on the lease?
I own the house and am the only one who has paid anything into it. That’s why I’ve asked him to leave and I’ve done so numerous times. He will just stay in guest room until things “blow over” and I got to a breaking point where I can’t do this cycle and feel taken advantage of. The local police could make him leave if I showed them my deed to the house but I can’t do that to him and it would be devastating for our child so I really wish he would just go and trust that we will obviously have an equal coparenting situation.
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Default Apr 07, 2021 at 08:01 PM
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This is a horrible situation, I was very recently in a similar one. Sometimes you have no choice and just have to think about what is best for your little child. If your partner staying at your house is getting in the way of raising your chid in a healthy, stress free environment then it might be best to force him to leave. (please see a lawyer for options)This is after exhausting all other options of course. The next year or so is very important to your child.
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