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Default May 16, 2021 at 01:41 PM
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I cannot believe what has happened to me in the last two years. Sometimes I wonder if I slipped in the shower, suffered a head injury and am in a coma at a hospital. Could this just be the worst bad dream ever?

This is the short version of what, unfortunately, is my reality.

May of 2019 I lost my Mom. She was my family. Devastated and grieving, I told myself even though I lost my Mom, I have my Husband so I will always have family because I have him. We do not have children.

January of 2020 I saved my Husband's life. After his emergency triple bypass and lung surgery, I nursed him back to health. A week or two after he was cleared to return to work, the Covid 19 lock down started (mid March). Fortunately, he was able to continue working at his office during this time.

The day after the one year anniversary of my Mom's funeral and just days before my 16th wedding anniversary, I was told by my Husband that our marriage was over. Basically, I saved his life and then he decided to spend the rest of it with someone else, who is almost young enough to be his daughter. Still can't figure out how someone can tell you that they love you every day, multiple times a day for 18 years and then one day say that they don't love you and don't think they ever loved you. Feels like I was lied to and tricked into marrying him under false pretenses.

He moved out part time until October when he moved out completely to live in a house two miles away that his Mistress bought for them to live in. On multiple occasions, he promised and gave his word that he would let me know prior to going to a lawyer to file and that I would not be surprised by a process server. Well, shortly after he moved out...surprise! A process server showed up at my door. I didn't even know he had seen a lawyer and filed.

I have not been able to earn an income since 2012 when I had to leave my job due to health reasons. He had refused when I told him I could file for Social Security Disability.

Now living alone with barely enough money to live, there was a plumbing issue. He come over to try to fix it. Long story short, both toilets overflowed sewer water and flooded the house. Home owner's insurance policy is not even enough money to cover replacement of belongings and furnishings let alone the $40,000. repair bill. A lien might be put on the house for the water mitigation bill. The actual structure repairs have not been done (all walls, some flooring, vanities, etc.). My Husband was never good with money. We always lived paycheck to paycheck.

He is not providing enough money to cover necessities let alone anything else.

This nasty divorce legal battle, on top of everything else, is literally killing me.

I have learned from talking to a counselor that I married an abusive narcissist. Wish I had known that information when I met him 19 years ago.

No family, no friends, no money, no income....intense stress, anxiety, trauma, loneliness, physical and emotional pain consume me.

Thanks for reading my nightmare reality and letting me vent.
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Default May 16, 2021 at 08:15 PM
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How did he meet someone else during Covid? You need your own legal advice as he should be paying you alimony.
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Default May 16, 2021 at 09:16 PM
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Thanks for your reply. I am not familiar with this site so I hope my response goes through properly.

Turns out there was an emotional affair going on for a while without my knowledge. They used to work together. He is not paying alimony because we are not legally divorced yet.
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