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Ravroee
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Default May 21, 2021 at 10:18 AM
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Hey group,

Happy to be here.

I've been with my wife for almost a decade, married for the past 5 years. Our relationship was great for the first 7-8 years, and we became parents for the first time 3 months ago.

Our relationship had ups and downs but to be honest it was mostly downs towards the beginning of the pregnancy.

I've been extremely supportive throughout the pregnancy, going with my wife to every doctor's appointment, supporting her emotionally and physically. It really looked like we can pull it through.

But then we came home from the hospital after the birth. With the joy and happiness of being parents it immediately switched to constant arguing and fighting over the dishes, laundry, that kind of stuff.

Recently, our fights took a whole new level, with consistent verbal abuse and sometime physical encounters (I want to emphasize that my wife comes from an abusive family and I NEVER started a fight with her. I usually just push her away when she becomes violent).

My wife became obsess with our daughter, refusing any feeding other than direct feeding, which impacts her sleep, pushing away my parents when they're trying to schedule time with her, and acting as if she's the only parent of the child and only She knows what's best for her. I love that child with all my heart and am trying to spend as much time possible with her. I even switched from a 9-hour work day to 5-6 on average while trying to stay home as much as possible.

In our last few fights she really took it to the next level, with serious verbal and emotional abuse, calling me a loser, a bad dad, talking about my family and threatening divorce every time.

Since then, she became even worse, with her saying that she documents our fights for family court, and most recently even saying SHE IS NOT MY DAUGHTER during one of the fights, which I'm not sure is the case or she's just trying to hurt.

On the one hand, I'm trying to act like a thoughtful, caring husband who needs to be extra-mascular during the postpartum period (it's only been around 3 months since birth).

On the other, my daughter gets exposed to constant fighting, screaming, cursing and even physical violence, and to be honest I'm sick of it too. Most fights end up with me getting kicked out of the house for a few hours, just to fight again a few days later.

I'm really out of ideas, I don't really know what decision I should take, should I stay or go?
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Default May 21, 2021 at 11:34 AM
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Just my opinion, I think you and your child need to leave the abusive situation you described. Do you have family that can help you? Have you considered talking to a lawyer? You can also try one more time to try to get her to sit down and calmly discuss a mutual resolution, whatever that may be. Again, just sharing my opinion and thoughts. I hope your situation improves quickly.
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