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Default May 22, 2021 at 03:29 AM
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So im new to this forum but decided for my own mental health and to not feel alone to talk. I decided to divorce my husband. We have been married for 4 years and friends for about 9, no children, just a cat. I know that I am by no means perfect and I have my own issues I am getting help for (social anxiety, past verbal and emotional abuse by boyfriend, depression and some health issues. I tried and put my whole effort in to try and save our marriage and even sought couples counseling. But ultimately you cant save a marriage when the other person doesnt want to put effort in. I feel a slight sense of peace coming to the realization that I tried everything and did my best and this is the only option to move forward. It still really hurts a lot because I love him but I know this is probably the best all around. My family and best friend live in a different state so definitely feeling the loneliness. They are very supportive but its hard when their not physically here as well as I work night shift so its hard to find time when they are still awake or able to talk. I also feel stress and anxiety as im going through this chapter alone with no one to 100% confide in and anxious about this new chapter in my life and remembering to rely on myself again and to be alone again. Basically remembering to go through life alone. This forum has helped reading others feel the same or are experiencing what I am. Im also stressed about the whole divorce process and what will happen etc. So any advice is welcomed
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Default May 22, 2021 at 01:25 PM
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Dear BlueButterfly,

It is very nice to meet you.

I am so very, very sorry you are suffering.

Having never been married and therefore having never been divorced, I am the last person on earth to offer advice. It sounds like you are doing all the right things in the situation you describe.

It must be so difficult to not have people near to you who could offer you face to face encouragement, understanding, empathy and consolation. I guess that is a terrible understatement.

Wish I knew what to say to help ease your pain and distress.

Hopefully these Forums will provide some comfort to you. They have helped me a lot with my own isolation and loneliness.

Wish I knew what else to say.

My English is not very good so I cannot really express myself very well in that beautiful language. Hopefully other members here will see your post and respond to it with things that are really and truly helpful to you.

You deserve a life where you can have peace of mind and be able to experience joy of living!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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Default May 22, 2021 at 04:37 PM
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Welcome! So Sorry for what you're going through! i agree with the wise and wonderfuk Yaowen that you deserve a Peaceful Life and everyone else does as Well. We have a forum dedicated to divorce and separation so you may be interested in checking that one out. So Sorry that things weren't able to work out. i Hope things will improve soon for both and everyone. Are you currently seeing a therapist? If not couple counseling. Please do not give up. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @BlueButterly, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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