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seven days ago, my husband of 28 years of marriage, told us (myself and adult children) s that he was no happy and therefore wants to move out to get a personal space and rediscover himself. He was more than right that we were not happy in our marriage, and I agreed to his decision. Surprisingly, he didn't move out and this was the third time that he was threatening to move out but ends up back tracking on his decision. I think the reason why he keeps on postponing moving out is because he is financially crippled as he has been unemployed for years and has drinking problem .
I have now reached a stage whereby I feel I should go for divorce, but I also don't have the guts to initiate that. I feel he is financially abusing because he is just too dependent on me, but very ungreatful , arrogant and self centered. I am doing everything in the house, while he is spending the rest of the day on facebook and whatssap or at bars drinking
Please help me boost my courage to take an initiative and file for divorce
Thank you

I have been married for 28 years and I am not happy at all in my marriage and i want to divorce but I am too sacred to make that decision. Kindly help me

[Have Hope]

Well, do you want to spend the next 2 years, 5 years or 10 years dealing with indecision, unhappiness and a stalemate, or do you want to take the plunge so that your life can improve? When you think of it from this perspective, it's an easier pill to swallow. Life is far too precious to waste years on being unhappy in a marriage. It's not your fault your husband hasn't worked and has a drinking problem. Those are his problems, which are not yours to solve or to support. Do this for yourself, for your happiness, for your mental health and well being. You owe it to yourself to be far happier than this.

Sending you courage and strength! You can do this!!!