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Eastonsman
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Default Dec 23, 2021 at 10:05 PM
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My wife and I are getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage. I truly thought she would be the one for the rest of my life. She recently had bariatric surgery and is feeling way different. I knew going in this could happen but the shock of it all is a lot for sure. It was a tough pill to swallow knowing she was thinking about being with someone else. She is good to me still but I am having a difficult time wanting to do the same. We have 2 kids and are going to split custody and we will be kind to one another. I am getting an apartment in January so that will be nice to not have to live under the same roof. Sorry to rant lol. Anyone have any advice or words or encouragement, anything.
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Default Dec 24, 2021 at 10:59 AM
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Eastonsman,

Sorry to hear what you are going through. I'm on my second divorce now. I had three kids with my first and now in hindsight I see why she left. I was trying so hard to keep the family together I didn't see all the problems we had. Not sure if/how broken your relationship is but I can say I know the pain but know you will get through it. Try to put the kids first as much as possible. My parents had a terrible divorce and I swore never to put the kids through that. I had deep resentment when she started dating and eventually remarried. I had to put assign my feelings to make co-parenting work. Im not friends with her new husband but I can now say it could be worse. Now going through my second divorce I know what happiness is and this one is more painful losing a happy marriage but I know she was not. Try to deal with any issues you have now so you don't carry them into any future relationship. Take it one day at a time and lean on all the support you have, here and in your circle of family and friends. Happy holidays!
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